Member: Robin L
Location: Phila
Date: 07 Mar 1999
Time: 11:48:39

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Hi My name is Robin I am an alcoholic /addict. This is a great step for me. I will always need much improvement here. There are many times that I am faced with a situation and it isn't until I've struggled a while that I realized or someone has pointed out to me to go back to the third step. Once I let go and let god things change. I cannot be in charge. Things go severely wrong when I am most of the time. Turning my will and life over to god as I understand him is not a natural occurance. It should be though because it is an easier softer way. I was in my addiction for so many years without god in my life at all. It will take a long time for me to make the third step a natural way. Through learned behavier many years he was not part of my life. But today, with practice,and a new learned behavier, I will strive to bring him as close to my life and my heart as possible. I have accepted his way, even though at times I don't understand. Today that is ok. It is progress,not perfection for this drunk. Thanks for letting me share. I look forward to reading all the posts on this steps.


Member: Jill W.
Location: Massachusetts
Date: 07 Mar 1999
Time: 14:02:45

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Hi - Jill, Alcoholic. I am currently in a women's AWOL and this happens to be the step that we are on and also the step I am currently tripping over. I just can't seem to turn my will over completely to my HP. I try real hard but then I find myself taking my own will back and it's been really hard. I pray on my knees almost on a daily basis and I know He is listening to me. I keep my eyes and ears open and find all sorts of signs that he is hearing me. I just don't know ... This step has me baffled. I just don't think I know how ... not yet.


Member: Susan C.
Location: Virginia
Date: 07 Mar 1999
Time: 15:43:25

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I have not shared here in quite awhile. My online step meeting is on step three also. I was told not to linger on step three or worry about it, but to just go on with the rest of the steps. That this in fact is one of the best ways I can work step three. I have "come to believe" by the results I have gotten from the rest of the steps: *Renewed relations with the family. *relief from the drinking compulsion and several others that were just as deadly like food *and the best being Faith in a God that IS Love.

For past year this all has been tested since I was diagnosed with MS a year ago and have had to stay home. The treatments give me the blues and I cry all the time when I rarely cried before. All over again I feel that early sobriety confusion and aloneness. Putting the whole thing in God's hands every day makes it easier, but I want to feel better right now! But I have to do things like walk to build up my weak muscles.And drink alot of water and less coffee. And since I picked up smoking again, that has to stop. So I have my part cut out for me...Yuk! I am sober and grateful to God for the AA felllowship. Thanks for being here.

Susan C.


Member: Kathy F
Location: Carlisle,IA
Date: 07 Mar 1999
Time: 18:43:32

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My name is Kathy and I am an alcoholic and a drug addict. I have heard many people come to step three and say that they can't do that or they have trouble with it. In fact I even said that the first time I came upon the step. So, don't feel alone. But, I learned that this step isn't turning anything over - rather it's merely deciding to do it down the road (become willing - not DOING) It's when we get to step 11 and "start praying for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out" that we start truly turning our lives over to God or out HP. That's what has worked for me. Good luck to you all - especially the newcomers.


Member: Libby
Location: PA
Date: 07 Mar 1999
Time: 19:32:22

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Good Day All! My name is Libby and I am an alcoholic/drug addict.

step three is the step I (in have in the past) rushed to, believing I would get that QUICK FIX of comfort. This is my third sobriety. First having 6.5 yrs.,2yrs, then 1+.I can tell you I know on an intellectual level that "turning my will and my life over to the care of God" means my will is my thinking and my life is the action. However, at 5 months sober I am staying focused on step 1. Step 2 has happened. I am sober today by God's grace and do not have an obsession to put any chemical substance,liquid or otherwise,in my body. I have been restored to sanity. I just spoke with a woman today with whom I shared " I am in no hurry to run through these steps-- I finally got with; this is a journey not a destination!

The Big Book outlines the steps in order and with direction. One of the things it tells us to do after taking the third step is to IMMEDIATELY begin our 4th. I am no where ready for that. My dust needs to continue to settle from this last run.

Thank you all for being here. Peace Lib


Member: Karen W.
Location: Harper Woods. Michigan
Date: 07 Mar 1999
Time: 19:45:58

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Member: lib
Location: pa
Date: 07 Mar 1999
Time: 21:46:33

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Member: richard m.
Location: sarasota, fla
Date: 07 Mar 1999
Time: 23:22:10

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hello my name is richard..i am an alcoholic......definitely works for me.....pray at night before sleeping.........pray in the morning upon awakeing......take time to pray thruout the day!!!!!!!a few moments here, a few moments there. god knows and keeps score........remember the program promises spiritual growth!!!!


Member: Bonnie C - 5/30/80
Location: Seattle
Date: 08 Mar 1999
Time: 03:05:37

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Hi extended family, bonnie/alcoholic here (((ROOM-HUG))) man I love u drunks and druggies, so nice to be here with everyone ((libby)) dear heart, prayers are answered cause I see your name - will e u --- sorry for breaking with meeting format, STEP=1 I CAN'T -- STEP-2 HE CAN STEP-3 this is an easy one, "SO I THINK I'LL LET HIM" easy to say but not to do, I read pages 60thru63 and 449thru452 from the first day in the program and when I finally "got" this step, those are the pages that came to mind, so it must be the ones that helped me the most with this step. I had to act my way into right thinking alot of the time. God Bless all those that venture here, love and hugs, bon -- bonzoc@webtv.net


Member: Geri W
Location: Va
Date: 08 Mar 1999
Time: 05:29:21

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Hi, Geri, a very grateful alcoholic here. Step 3 is making a decision. I can do that. Like the rest of the Program, it's simple. Not easy, simple. And like all decisions, I can make a new one at any time. So, we have the rest of the steps to help us figure out why Step 3 is the way to go. Every morning I pray to my HP whom I chose to call God, to remove me from the bondage of self and to guide and direct my EVERY thought and action throughout the day. The God of my understanding is love and compassion, so when I am in doubt about what to say or do, I do the most loving,kind thing that is available to me. I stop, pray and then talk/act. No one but me can be willing to live my life that way. It works for me. The benefits of being under God's direction are too numerous to list, but most of all, He has never required me to drink over anything. Awsome.


Member: Nancy C.
Location: Toledo
Date: 08 Mar 1999
Time: 06:46:42

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Hello all, Nancy here alcoholic. A decision is a p powerful thing for me it is powerful because I have control over deciding. My higher power doesn't force me she gives me free will and loves me what ever I decide. I believe that I put limits on my life when I stear my destiny I really dont know what I want what is good for me or where I should be.Plus controlling all of these things gives me a headache mostly because the people places and things have ideas of their own. I have dedicated the next 90 days to just being one day at a time no ideas no major decisions letting go and letting God. I have had YEARS of high major stress I need ti blow it out and get back in touch with a simpler life. I am not doing anything but the work at hand. I need to still and quiet myself enough to hear my directions. I let go. Thank you all for being here, Love Nancy


Member: Perry H
Location: Deer Valley, Utah
Date: 08 Mar 1999
Time: 08:04:53

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Good Morning, My name is Perry, and I am a grateful recovering alcoholic.

I keep thinking of the line I heard at my home group

"Right actions will equal right results"

I need to do the footwork and let the results go.

Footwork =prayer. Prayer is the action. Results will follow....

I have been doing some 4th step work on some recent alcoholic behavior while still dry. It hurts to see how I have hurt those around me, without regard for the feelings of those that love me. I have amends to be make. The best amends I can make , are to not drink and not repeat the same selfish behavior again.

In order to do this , I have to LetGo of my agenda and let God help me. It is a miracle that I did not drink. Thank You all in AA.


Member: Kevin H.
Location: Philadelphia, Pa.
Date: 08 Mar 1999
Time: 10:28:46

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Hi everyone! Kevin, alcoholic here. Thank you all for sharing! My experience with Step 3 is simple and similar to some who have already shared. It was pointed out to me that this was only a decision and that I never turn my will over to God and take it back. The Step states that we make a decision to turn our will and our life over to the "care and direction" of God as we understand Him. This means that I need to begin to let God direct my thinking! In order to begin to do this, I had to realize that there was something wrong with my thinking. This I realized at about 21/2 years sober, as I was continuing to run my life on undirected self will! I was ready to drink again or kill myself and felt hopeless and helpless, which I found was Step 1. I was then willing to believe that there might be some kind of Power that could help! This was Step 2. I made a decision that I would try to find this Power, I believe that God put some wonderful people in my life that were in to studying the Big Book, in which I found, and continue to find "clear-cut directions" on how to recover from alcoholism! In the BB, it stated that Step 3 was a vital and crucial step, but it could have little permanent effect unless at once followed by a strenuous effort to face, and be rid of, the things in ourselves which had been blocking us from this Power! This was translated to me by my sponsor to mean going on with Steps 4-9 at once! I did so and continue to TRY to live Steps 10,11,and 12 each day of my life,trying to let God direct my thinking and stumbling from time to time! THANK GOD for this beautiful way of life! Thank you all for sharing and sharing in my experience! God Bless Everyone!


Member: rufus t
Location:
Date: 08 Mar 1999
Time: 12:12:03

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hello group,im rufus t.,recovered alcoholic. thank god for the gift of desperation that drove me into this program.when i got here i had seen the four horsemen that the big book talks about.i no longer had control over my drinking or my life.i was terrified.by the grace of god i became honest enough to admit that i was an alcoholic ,open minded enough to accept there may b a power greater than myself,and willing enough to trust in that power.the third step has changed my life.it made go on with the rest of the program.though the world hasnt changed since i came int the program,i have .and that for me is what this program is about.change we must or die we will.thank god for aa and thanks for letting me share.


Member: Lynn C.
Location: Southern Illinois
Date: 08 Mar 1999
Time: 13:57:49

Comments

For years I struggled with trying to find a concept of God that I was comfortable with (as we understood him) What I eventually found was that my concept of God was not the problem, I tried many concepts and none of them were working.

My unwillingness to trust anything outside myself was the problem.

When I finally started to take some small baby steps and trust, even just a little, amazing things started to happen.

So for me it is more important that I take a chance and trust something outside myself.

One thing I have found that has never failed me is the power of the group.

Today I have a concept that works for me, I simply define my HP as Love. I have seen so many miracles in my recovery, that my trust is no longer an act of faith, it is based on a matter of fact to me, in the beginning I could write things of to coincidence, but there have been to many miracles to ignore the truth. For me the truth is that all the credit for my sobriety goes to this program and my HP.


Member: Jo Ann Young
Location: Texas
Date: 08 Mar 1999
Time: 14:28:49

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Hello everyone I'm a newcomer to Cyber. My name is JoAnn. In ther 3rd step I really thought I would see a burning bush. Much to my surprise it wasn't. Today for me 3rd step prayer is a descion to let god take control of my life meaning I'm no longer in charge. And I'm greatful for this. I have a tendancy to try to take it back but it works better when I'm not trying to play god. I't been a real hard lesson to learn but is worth the work.


Member: Jim B.
Location: Bethel, ME.
Date: 08 Mar 1999
Time: 16:06:36

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I am Jim and I am an alcoholic. Step 3 for me is preparation to give everything over to HP in steps 4&5. Then, once I've gotten that load off my chest I begin to discover that step 2 and step 3 were stepping stones to get to the other side, i.e. sobriety. It's only in hindsight that I realize step 2 and step 3 were stepping stones, as are all the steps towards sobriety. Then, step 10, which I am working on now, goes hand in hand with all the previous steps teaching courtesy. But step 3 is mostly, for me, what I've decided to give God, that, he will return to help keep me sane. I give him my insanity; he returns to me sanity! Then I can continue this when the need arises. Thank God! Peace. -Jim


Member: Mike N
Location: Lansing,MI.
Date: 08 Mar 1999
Time: 22:45:04

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I'm Mike and an alcoholic I would not be here today if not for the third step.Fear ran my life I was to afraid to leave the house.The fear had to be removed or I would drink again,I was in a 6 month treatment program with 13 other guys. A Judge told me get help or I'll put where you can get the help you need. Two meeting a day for 6 months,I found a God,learned how to turn it over and get out of the way. I start my day by making the first three steps into prayer,and giving thanks at night.Have not had to drink since I started doing it.Fact prior to investigation is known as stupidity.


Member: WALT L.
Location: NAPA CA.
Date: 09 Mar 1999
Time: 00:28:03

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Hi, Walt here, alcoholic. The only thing I know about the third step isin the 12x12 on pg 40 last paragragh. It is even italicized so that I know it's important. Only took me five years and some pretty tight knot holes before i read that right. Anyway, love CYBER AND ALL OF YOU. VIA CON DIOS


Member: Lewis B
Location: Saline Co Mo.
Date: 09 Mar 1999
Time: 00:31:30

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Hi. I'm Lewis and an alcoholic. This is the step that took my desire to drink away. What I mean is that I struggled with this step because I didn't want to turn my life over to a vengful God. But I knew if I didn't I would die. That I would go back out and drink. and I didn't want that. So I asked in a meeting one night and they told me just to, keep it simple--like please help me-- It worked because I haven't had a desire to drink since then. I pray that others may find it so simple. That they not have to understand: just to do... Thanks and God bless Lewis


Member: Jim R.
Location: Chgo
Date: 09 Mar 1999
Time: 01:04:16

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Evening Everybody, My name is Jim, and I'm an Alcoholic. The We got me here... coming to believe in a power greater than myself was difficult... but turning my will over to my Higher Power was almost impossible... so, I had really work this step hard... My track record proved that I had to first recognize that God could help me if he were sought. Once I took that leap of faith, I finally surrendered.

Being humble before God is not difficult for me today... being humble to my fellow man is... I must constantly work this step to gain sanity and serenity in my life... I have to quit trying to manage my life and just learn to live it... God will do the rest. Thanks for all your comments.

Yours in the fellowship

Jim R.


Member: Ron W.
Location: Los Angeles  California
Date: 09 Mar 1999
Time: 01:07:54

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Hi,Ron alcoholic. I find that pain is the touchstone of growth. when im in enough pain i become willing to do what it takes to free myself from the bondage of self. I let go of control by using a variety of methods.One of my favorite waysis the serenity prayer. I then take action. Thanks for being here and listening to me.


Member: Jack c wanderers 3
Location: Friendship Wi.
Date: 09 Mar 1999
Time: 01:24:55

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Hello, I/m jack c and an alcoholic.Bonzoc of Seattle Wa. sure says it quick. I can't--HE can--I will let HIM.---That's what it takes. I will Let HIM--I will ask HIM--I will depend on HIM--I will look to HIM for all help at all times. I will think of HIM often--I will praise and thank HIM--When I am busy in staying in touch with my HP I know that I can't go wrong. It is as simple as that. I'm complicated--GOD uncomplicates me and I'm free of my horrible ways. GLORY BE !!!!


Member: john mc
Location: u.k.
Date: 09 Mar 1999
Time: 03:20:54

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Clearcut, precise instructions. All you have to do is read the step as it is written. All you do in Step 3 is make a decision. When l was drinking l made many "decisions", just never acted on them?? Step 3 calls for action. So if you want what they've got and are willing to go to any lengths to get it you are now at Step 4. simple, eh. lt never ceases to amaze me the number of people who mis-interpret this simple Step, "sponsors" take note, if you're not doing it the B/Book way, you're not doing it, and if you're not doing it( with your sponsee/s) the B/Book way, you've no right to be doing it at all.The 12x12 does'nt help, in fact it is seriously misleading. We cannot afford to have people stuck on any of these steps, there's no good reason why they should be stuck Being stuck can kill. Why do you think there are so few "oldtimers". The message to newcomers is simple, if your "sponsor" is doing it by the 12x12, GET ANOTHER SPONSOR!! j&t@john-mc.demon.co.uk


Member: Pierre S.
Location: Grapevine TX
Date: 09 Mar 1999
Time: 10:56:30

Comments

I'm an Alcoholic and my name is Pierre . I don't completely agree with John's comments about the 12X12 anf feel it is another of the many tools available to us in Recovery.

I do agree with him about the decision though, and the action that I take as the result of that decision is to move forward with the Steps. NEXT . . . is step 4. By doing this ( like it or not, aware of it or not ) we are turning our will ( THOUGHTS ) and our lives ( ACTIONS ) over to the care of God, or that Power that we found in Step 2.

The 3rd Step Prayer is found on p63 in the Big Book and it begins, " God, I offer myself to Thee- to build with me and to do with me as Thou wilt....." For those struggling with this step, or with life in general, for that matter, find it and read it . Think about it.

For 14 years I have started my day, every day with this prayer. When I was new I thought it was B.S. but because of my desperation and the urging of my Sponsor I did it anyway and miracles began to happen in my life.

It is an extremely powerful and effective Prayer .

Love and prayers to all.


Member: Liz C.
Location: Detroit, MI
Date: 09 Mar 1999
Time: 13:54:17

Comments

Hi, my name is Liz and I'm an alcoholic. Step3, made a decision. By far the best decision I ever made. Making the decision was the easy part; letting God actually run the show is a bit harder.After 5 years I'm still learning how. Thank God its progress not perfection! I needed a meeting today and since the weather is not co-operating here, I decided to check out meetings on the web. Nice to know this is available in an emergency but I'd like to warn new comers this is no substitute for the real thing. DDAGTM LizC.


Member: Liz C.
Location: Detroit, MI
Date: 09 Mar 1999
Time: 13:54:41

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Hi, my name is Liz and I'm an alcoholic. Step3, made a decision. By far the best decision I ever made. Making the decision was the easy part; letting God actually run the show is a bit harder.After 5 years I'm still learning how. Thank God its progress not perfection! I needed a meeting today and since the weather is not co-operating here, I decided to check out meetings on the web. Nice to know this is available in an emergency but I'd like to warn new comers this is no substitute for the real thing. DDAGTM LizC.


Member: JIM G.
Location: MARYLAND
Date: 09 Mar 1999
Time: 14:23:41

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"We made a decision..."

The oldtimers told me the ABCs of AA were admission, belief, and commitment, standing for our first three steps. I could buy admission and belief for the first two but I couldn't fit commitment into the third. I was Christmas shopping, sober over a year, attending eight meetings weekly, feeling well, secure, confident. Bells were pealing carols. People with packages were smiling. I was exuberant. I glanced at merrymakers through an open barroom door. Without a thought of my sobriety, I smiled and entered, eager to join them. Starting to order a drink, I recalled this beautiful commitment: "We made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood him." Not ordering, I turned on my heel, laughed,abd started for the AA club to trim the Christmas Tree, murmering thanks.


Member: Jackie B.
Location: Clarion, PA
Date: 09 Mar 1999
Time: 20:22:18

Comments

Alcoholic named Jackie...Howdy, Hi...before sobriety, I never made a decision...others did that for me. The utility companies decided when I paid the bill when I got shut off notices..the landlord decided when I paid the rent when I got eviction notices, so making a decision was new to me. And anything I ever turned over was either the B side or got towed away. Turning over my will, keeps me sober, but the life thing sometimes is difficult. Sometimes, I think HP needs a little assistance, but then I get humbled by that decision and my life is back in the hands of God. "In desperation" the book says and boy, don't I know it. Thanks for readin my stuff.

Peace,

Jackie


Member: PH
Location:
Date: 09 Mar 1999
Time: 23:25:08

Comments

Hi, Pearl here. Alcoholic. I'm back after six months out, not drinking/using, just thinking I can live without this program. Wrong. How quickly I forget that I'm an alcoholic even when I'm not drinking. Last time I was gone for 7 years, so I guess I'll call this progress. Last time I came into a meeting, the group was on Step 3. I do love this step. I didn't have the courage to go to a face to face meeting tonight but glad I found this spot. Tonight I am willing...to consider getting my a-- to a meeting tomorrow. One thing I know. If I want to truly live this precious life, there's no way to do without this program. Thanks everybody for listening, Peace to you all. PH


Member: PH
Location:
Date: 09 Mar 1999
Time: 23:25:20

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Hi, Pearl here. Alcoholic. I'm back after six months out, not drinking/using, just thinking I can live without this program. Wrong. How quickly I forget that I'm an alcoholic even when I'm not drinking. Last time I was gone for 7 years, so I guess I'll call this progress. Last time I came into a meeting, the group was on Step 3. I do love this step. I didn't have the courage to go to a face to face meeting tonight but glad I found this spot. Tonight I am willing...to consider getting my a-- to a meeting tomorrow. One thing I know. If I want to truly live this precious life, there's no way to do without this program. Thanks everybody for listening, Peace to you all. PH


Member: Collection Time
Location: PA
Date: 10 Mar 1999
Time: 08:51:10

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One way that I can show gratitiude, is by putting some money in the basket. This group practices the 7th tradiion " Every group should be self supporting, declining outside contributions..." So this is the cyber way to pass the basket and ask anyone attending to send by mail, a contribution to:

Staying Cyber P.O.Box 392 Minisink Hills , Penna. 18341

I try to send something once a year, usually around my anniversay time. I suggest $2.00 for each year sober , if you can afford it. Of course anything will help offset the cost of the server, host, and webmaster. Any extra dollars are sent directly to NY, General Service Office.

Thanks-

 


Member: Tiffany M.
Location: Washington, La.
Date: 11 Mar 1999
Time: 20:48:27

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Hi, I'm Tiffany alcoholic/addict. It took me a long time to realize that step 3 is just simply making a decision. But we have to take action on it for it to work. The action is working the rest of the steps. For example, I can decide to order a pizza but if I don't pick up the phone and order it I won't get it. We can decide to turn our will over all we want but until we make an honest try to change our way of thinking nothing will happen. The steps are designed to change our outlook. For me, after I worked the steps, my new outlook showed me that I was playing God before. The steps showed me how not to play God and to step back and trust Him. Thus, I learned how to turn my will over to Him on a daily basis. Playing God is what got me here so I can't afford to do it. My life depends on it. So many newcomers think that they have to experience this "great bang" spiritual thing from step 3. But all it is is making a decision! The "great bang" comes after the decision is put into action by working the rest of the steps. God's speed.


Member: OK TO POST NOW
Location: TECH'S
Date: 11 Mar 1999
Time: 21:00:18

Comments

The Web Server problem should be corrected now.

Sorry Folks


Member: Tom A.
Location: Carlisle, AR
Date: 11 Mar 1999
Time: 22:42:57

Comments

Hello Group!

My name is Tom A. a grateful sober alcoholic today, by the grace of God and this AA Fellowship.

Early in my sobriety, I was introduced to two little books entitled "Stools and Bottles" and "The Little Red Book" they both illustrate that the disease of alcoholism affects the alcoholic physically, mentally, and spiritually and that Step 1, deals with the physical aspect; Step 2 deals with the mental aspect; and Step 3, deals with the spiritual aspect of the disease. The book "Stools and Bottles" likens the first three steps to a three legged milk stool and state that we need all three to maintain our balance/sobriety. I believe that and the image of the three legged milk stool helps me to remember who I am.

Also, I thank the writer of the story in the Big Book entitled "The Vicious Cycle" he gave us that beautiful phrase "God as we understood Him."

Thanks for letting me share! Please try to enjoy your sobriety today.

God Bless - Tom A. ate@gte.net


Member: Bill J. 12 19 75
Location: kingsville Texas
Date: 12 Mar 1999
Time: 09:32:30

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Hi my cyber friends. Had some problems with this step. Told my sponsor that I did not know what God's will for me was. He said some of us have to come in the back door!! He ask me if I knew what God's will for me was not and I told him I didn't think he wanted me drink and running around on my wife. He said if I didnt do what I knew was not God's will I just might be doing God's will. Later I told him I did not understand God. He said if I had a god I could understand He/she would be too small to do me any good. Later was talking to Father Jim( AA member) and told him I did not understand God . he said I did not need to understand God but rather needed a understanding God.Made sence to me . Some time later I told my spiritual advisor (Ray V.) I thought God wanted me to be a missionary to China. He ask me if I spoke Chinese.That answered that question and taught me the value or checking things out with a trustrd advisor. God works through people. LOVE to my cyber friends.


Member: Ana A.
Location: Portugal
Date: 12 Mar 1999
Time: 10:28:50

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Hi, I'm Ana and I'm a very grateful alcoholic. I love Step 3 - "made a decision" to live my life by these principles (the steps). It has been a good decision, a wise decision. I think it was the very first mature decision I made in my life ( I was 41 years old!). "To turn my will" - it made a lot of sense when I read in a "non-approved" book that what I had to turn over was my insane thoughts, the ones that nobody wanted and which needed to be recicled and "my life"-meaning my insane actions and behaviors, which also needed some corrections. This decision "to turn over" is what I do daily when I read the morning meditation, when I go to a meeting and when I speak with people that know me well and give me feedback about what I say and the way I act - these are some of the ways my HP tells me what he needs to tell me I just have to listen! Thank you for being there and God bless


Member: Trudy G.
Location:
Date: 12 Mar 1999
Time: 18:50:35

Comments

Hi my name is Trudy, alcoholic. I have just turned my life over to the care of God as I understand him. It is so true when you are in pain that is when I become willing. I have been away from the program for almost a year now. Thought I could do it by myself, however, I was wrong and started drinking again. This is my first day sober, I will be attending a meeting on Tuesday, and I am frightened and ashame.


Member: Roy S.
Location:
Date: 12 Mar 1999
Time: 19:40:47

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This is a step, as has been mentioned in several of the postings, that I have to keep revisiting. It is very hard for me to admit that I cannot control a situation. Even though I know that turning my entire life over to my HP is the only way to go in the long run, it seems that it is easy to convince myself that I can handle whatever comes along just this ONE time. The more times that I keep proving this to myself, the better I am getting at this step, however. Thanks for leting me share.


Member: derick
Location: USA
Date: 12 Mar 1999
Time: 21:18:39

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Hi everyone. This step is present everyday in my life. Today I was thinking about how I have had difficulty finding a place to attend AA. I don't always feel comfortable at the AA meetings in my community. Sometimes yes, sometimes no. Then I found this sight. I was at the discussion page and the text box was missing, so I came here and it was the 3rd step. The step that made the most sense to me after my 3rd drunk driving offense. This weeks discussion topic was gratitude and I'm grateful for this step and for god and for all of my drunk drivings and that I never hurt anyone. God used my alcoholism against me to help me. Since I let god take over my life has been nothing but success and content. However, when I forget who is running the show I end up in all kinds of difficult situations. Thankfully, they're not situations that include drinking (anymore). It wasn't always as easy as it is today and I can never forget what I was like before!!! I know there is no such thing as perfection, only progress, but since I began treatment in 1996, my life has been progressively better and better. Thank you for writing, it is always good to hear/read the wisdom of others. God Bless and keep on coming. For those of you who are new, try listening to the Joe and Charlie tapes, they helped me alot.


Member: Jeanette G.
Location: NY
Date: 12 Mar 1999
Time: 21:42:50

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Hi, I'm Jeanette and I am an alcoholic. Step three to me is something I try to practice every day. I try to remember (I am far from perfect!) everyday to ask God to take this day from me and show me what He wants me to do. I try to remember to ask God to help me with any decisions I have to make. Big or small. When I ask God to take this day of mine and show me the right path to take I feel a sense of relief. I am not alone in the world although I isolated myself for years. There is someone Greater than me that is there for me. That is a wonderful feeling.


Member: Steve Q
Location: Illinois
Date: 12 Mar 1999
Time: 23:07:03

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Steve, alcoholic. One to read carefully. 3 is only the decision. I beat myself up alot because I wasn't "living in faith". I wasnt supposed to, or more accurately I was not able to, not yet. A decision is a choice for a new direction. Faith does not come until step 11.Working 4-11 makes the decision I made in 3 a reality. 3 is the choice, the rest is the process. Once I was able to grasp that I cut myself a little slack.Thanks for being here guys.


Member: John M.
Location: California
Date: 13 Mar 1999
Time: 08:38:23

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My name is John and I'm an alcoholic. Thanks, steve, that is how I see it also. And today, nearly five years sober, when my self-will has taken over and I'm all tangled up, I make the decision to let go and let God but that has little effect unless I follow it up with practicing the principles of the program, (trust God, clean house, and help others).


Member: Rob R
Location: Melbourne, Australia
Date: 13 Mar 1999
Time: 09:25:06

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G'day all it's defineitly step 3 time for me, ok God i get the hint my last 2 f2f meetings and a non AA workshop were all on surrendering my will and doing God's will. These coincidences in the last week and now this Board which is my 1st visit,must be God's way of staying anonymous. Put the 3rd step into your life Rob...... Let go and let God.....


Member: NICK.S.5/15/84
Location: OCEANCITYN.J.
Date: 13 Mar 1999
Time: 23:03:44

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