Member: cathy d.
Location: Ann Arbor MI
Remote Name: 68.40.199.204
Date: 07 Mar 2004
Time: 10:07 AM -0500
Good morning everyone. This step has proven to be the hardest one for me. I'm ok at realizing that I am wrong frequently, but my rascally mind still leads me into justifying certain wrong actions, then I go on to hitting bottom with that action. Only when things get really unmangeable will I admit defeat. For instance I let my credit card debt get too high, didn't admit it to my husband until things got bad, now he doesn't trust me as much as he did. That was 3 years ago, I cut up my credit cards totally so I can't repeat that problem. I've been sober nearly 10 years and have found great recovery with AA, no drinking and much better relationships with people, but I really need to work the 10th better. Thanks tons for reading this.
Member: Mike H
Location: Jackson Michigan
Remote Name: 68.76.54.197
Date: 07 Mar 2004
Time: 10:35 AM -0500
This step reminds me that I am responsible for my actions. In the past, if I didn't get caught, good, move on. With the honesty that that program has helped me develop I now watch my actions and try to "give rather than receive".This is a complete turn around for me and life is easier because of it. If I make a mistake I try to correct it as soon as possible. This way I'm not always "looking over my shoulder". Wishing everyone health and happiness. Mike H.
Member: Stephen C
Location: North Stratford,N.H.
Remote Name: 165.121.145.172
Date: 07 Mar 2004
Time: 12:41 PM -0500
Good Afternoon to everyone and i believe this is wonderful topic because im allways taking inventory of my self and ive also learn now that im sober to amditt when im wrong and i allways feel so much better about myself and i love to talk to people and if i can help anyone i also feel so much better so you can reach me at fruitbomber20027@hotmail.com
Member: Tracy
Location: Little ole England
Remote Name: 62.255.64.7
Date: 07 Mar 2004
Time: 01:24 PM -0500
Step 10...I work this step many times through the day....as it says in the BB we use this step as "we go along" that way I don't build up any major resentments whether towards another or against myself..its my pressure cooker step. God Bless
Member: Gage
Location: swamp
Remote Name: 152.163.252.133
Date: 07 Mar 2004
Time: 01:32 PM -0500
I'm Gage, an alcoholic. I can think of a hundred ways to justify my bad behavior if I want to. The Big Book says, however, that if we are diligent on the AA path, that eventually uncommon knowledge will become common to us. I think this must be true, as I am finding that I can almost always account my bad behavior to fear, the first place I look when I know that my spiritual condition isn't fit, and generally, it's not what other people are doing that has me upset, but what I am not doing that I should be. I've come to believe that we draw a lot of my fate to me simply by thinking in certain ways. I'm also thinking less that life is a contest between me and them -- it just doesn't matter so much to me anymore to be right about everything. It does matter that I be right in my spirit, and if admitting my fears, admitting when I'm wrong or have acted wrongly, or just admitting to myself when I'm thinking the wrong way whether I've acted on those thoughts or not, will keep me in fit spirit, I'll do it. Humility is healing.
Member: Gage
Location: swamp
Remote Name: 205.188.209.38
Date: 07 Mar 2004
Time: 02:07 PM -0500
I meant to say above that "I" draw my fate to me, not "we".
Member: Barry M.
Location: Alamogordo, New Mexico
Remote Name: 67.27.38.24
Date: 07 Mar 2004
Time: 06:58 PM -0500
Barry, A newly recovering alcoholic, again. I must say, it is good to be alive today. My God has given me one more day to enjoy this beautiful weather here in southern New Mexico and I am greteful for the opportunity. I woke this morning and had to admit that my actions over the last day or so were not totally with my program but with a short prayer and a positive additude it has been a great day sober. Thank God for people like me
Member: sonia
Location: england
Remote Name: 62.254.0.30
Date: 07 Mar 2004
Time: 09:07 PM -0500
Hello World Step Ten. I dont do a formal step ten, although my sponser started me off with the more formal version. In fact it is very lapse at the moment. At over three years sober, i dont feel so much complacent as in lacking in the motivation and faith that i use to have in this program as a cure all. I have never felt that way before about this programe, i have always worked hard in my head at it, and beleived that it can be applied to every occasion and event. I am glad this board is here for me today, to remind me of what i need to do. I am in alanon, as well as AA and think maybe it is time i looked at the steps again from the alanon perspective. love and lightening sonia
Member: Craig L (Dogmanor@yahoo.com)
Location: Aloha, Oregon
Remote Name: 67.42.7.116
Date: 08 Mar 2004
Time: 10:03 AM -0500
I was told to read pages 86 through 88 every day for 30 days and my life would be better. Over the years when things became difficult I would start this practice, but my life improved so rapidly I stopped and never did a full 30 days worth. LOL. Today, when I am feeling restless and irritable, I know I am not right with God and I have to review my part in the way I feel. I use a lot of restraint so I rarely have to make amends to others anymore, but I often have to admit being wrong to myself. When I have wrong thoughts or ideas I acknowledge them discuss them with someone and then ask God to remove them, so I can be of better service. So far this has allowed me to be and stay happy. I canāt give away what I donāt have.
Member: AZbill
Location: azbill1172@cox.net
Remote Name: 68.226.19.133
Date: 08 Mar 2004
Time: 07:34 PM -0500
Hi. Bill here. Alcoholic from Arizona. All kinds of stuff going on in Ten. Step Ten makes up a major part of my recovery and is much better worked out of the big book rather than the 12x12. Step ten keeps me updated in setting right new mistakes. Lots of "invisible" promises in 10. "We have entered the world of the spirit"; "We have ceased fighting..."; "Sanity will have returned"; "We react sanely and normally"; "We will see that our new attitude toward booze has been given to us without any thought or effort on our part"; We are not fighting nor are we avoiding temptation. "We feel we have been placed in a position of neutrality--safe". "Protected" Our problem with alcohol not longer exists. It had been removed. In Ten we learn the proper use of the will. But it is not a free ride.. In 10 we are also charged with.. "Growing in understanding and effectiveness and should continue over our lifetime". Awesome step this Ten.. There is even a "rule" in there..."Love and Tolerance of others is our code." Thanks. Love you all and there is not a darn thing you can do about it. :) Bill
Member: Adam H.
Location: New York, NY
Remote Name: 64.232.156.194
Date: 09 Mar 2004
Time: 10:01 AM -0500
Adam, alcoholic. Not to crosstalk on AZBill's share, but I actually like what it says in the 12X12 about Step 10: "It is a spiritual axiom that any time we are disturbed, no matter what the cause, there is something wrong with us." I remember hating that line for a long time, but now it finally makes sense to me. See, as a chronic alcoholic, nothing is ever enough...not only is there never enough to drink, but as far as my daily affairs and interactions with other people are concerned, nothing is ever enough there either. You can't love or respect me enough, you can't give me enough, and you can't do enough. So accordingly, if it's up to someone other than me to change so that I can feel better when I am disturbed, then I am in a lot of trouble because that person _can't_ change enough to make me happy. Instead, _I_ have to be the one who changes so I can be happy. So Step 10 is really important. I need to continue to watch for selfishness, dishonesty, resentment and fear and when they crop up, ask God to remove them, discuss them with someone and make amends if someone has been harmed...just like it says in the Big Book on page 84. Thanks for letting me share.
Member: Andrew M
Location: canada
Remote Name: 129.100.110.205
Date: 09 Mar 2004
Time: 10:42 AM -0500
David, alcoholic, to Adam H in New York, right on!!!! It's always been more, more, more for me. Nobody and nothing had a chance. Thank you for expressing this so well. I forget sometimes. Sober for a while now but need to make changes, lots of changes.
Member: Stephen C
Location: North Stratford,N.H.
Remote Name: 165.121.146.91
Date: 09 Mar 2004
Time: 01:10 PM -0500
well hello everyone and surely glad to be able to share with everyone on a daily basis,well,I agree that this is truely a good topic because i use all tyhe steps in my daily routine because if I dont i allways get inside myself and its not a good thing but i also know that i dont have to drink about problems today and ive also learn to tell the truth because it allways comes but if you dont someway in another it allways did for me and so if anyone needs a frind or someone to talk with then you can reach me at is email...fruitbomber20027@hotmail and have a good week everyone.
Member: Les
Location: San Diego
Remote Name: 198.81.26.48
Date: 11 Mar 2004
Time: 03:38 PM -0500
Almost every day I try to do my very best with this Step. I try to make love and tolerance my code. I try to see where I am wrong and try to make amends where and when I should. Some days it goes better than others but I continue to strive for perfection. The closer I come to practicing this Step all the time the better my life goes and the better I feel about myself and others.
Member: Peggy E
Location: Salem, Oregon
Remote Name: 67.164.52.213
Date: 11 Mar 2004
Time: 10:51 PM -0500
Hi! I'm Peggy. I'm an alcoholic. Step 10 is vital to my staying sober. You "sober up a horse thief you have a sober horse thief". Through the steps: we clean house, make amends, and work on staying sober. We don't think our way into right action, we act our way into right thinking. In Step 10 we continue housecleaning...
Member: Leona B
Location: CANADA
Remote Name: 209.17.154.43
Date: 12 Mar 2004
Time: 01:26 AM -0500
HI...Leona,Alcoholic...10, is my very favorite step...how freeing of bondage of self...love to go to sleep at night reviewing my day and asking if i had wronged someone, and if the answered was yes, to forgive myself and to right the wrong immediately...what an awsome program...no wonder it woks, if you work it!!!
Member: japittusc
Location: Charleston, SC
Remote Name: 68.58.177.143
Date: 12 Mar 2004
Time: 04:30 PM -0500
My name is Jennifer and I'm an alcoholic...continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it. Im still working on this one...although, today I am quick to know when I am in the wrong, Im not good about taking my spot check or my daily inventory, laziness on my part i suppose, but Im feeling the reprecushins in my daily life. I know I could be doing more and doing better with what Ive got. This step takes time I think. I still havfe some work to do on it though. Thanks\
Member: Jean
Location: Vacaville, CA
Remote Name: 67.118.28.216
Date: 13 Mar 2004
Time: 11:05 AM -0500
Hello, I'm Jean and I'm brand new. I have not worked any of the steps yet as I've only been sober for a little over a day now. But Adam was saying how nothing is ever enough and no one can ever do enough,etc. I never thought about that at all before but I blame every one around me for making me mad or depressing me. It's definitely a new way of looking at things but I'm sure I have a really long way to go until I can be that way.
Member: Stephen C
Location: North Stratford,N.H.
Remote Name: 165.121.146.20
Date: 13 Mar 2004
Time: 01:21 PM -0500
step 5:Admitted to god,ourselves,and to another human being the excat nature of our wrongs.......and this is from me stephen and hope its a good topic and its where im at and looking to here from everyone one on this topic you can reach me at fruitbomber20027@hotmail.com
Member: Nate W.
Location: Spokane, WA
Remote Name: 24.18.115.53
Date: 13 Mar 2004
Time: 03:07 PM -0500
Nate here, Admitting my wrongs was hard and still is but after all said and done I feel better in the end. Thanks
Member: Wayne
Location: Mississippi
Remote Name: 68.212.162.67
Date: 14 Mar 2004
Time: 07:41 AM -0500
Hello..my name is Wayne and I am an alcoholic. I believe I am able to recognize my part in things more quickly than I use to, but I still need to practice more diligence with this step on a daily basis throughout the day, one day at a time. Thanks for letting me share.