Member: Ed
Location: VA
Remote Name: 68.100.37.88
Date: February 17, 2004
Time: 09:36 AM -0500

Comments

When I first started attending AA meetings, I thought "One day at a time" was no more than a simplistic saying suited for bumper stickers. But it has turned out to be what has kept me sober for 4 weeks now. I don't really crave a drink, but thinking about a future without alcohol can send me spinning out of control. The other day, for instance, I looked out at my bleak February back yard and thought Spring isn't too far away. That brought a thought of me sitting on my deck with the barbecue fired up. The picture, of course, included me with a martini in my hand. Or yesterday, when I looked at a travel brochure with a picture of one of those European city squares, quaint architecture and happy people. Pictured myself there, and of course I was sitting in an outside restaurant glass of beer or wine in hand. On those and other similar occasions, I KNEW I wasn't going to make it. Ditto for when my wife is less than loving. Yesterday, I started entertaining the thought of stopping at the liquor store on the way home. If I couldn't go to Europe without drinking, I might as well start now. Clear thiniing, right? But I knew I could get through the day without drinking. "One day at a time" saved my ass. Going to a meeting last night helped me get out of that future thinking and back into the present. One day at a time is the ONLY way this alcoholic is going to stay sober. My mind can come up with all kinds of excused to drink, but I now KNOW I can make it through this one day. Another saying that helps -- which I think I first saw on Barefoot Bob's web site -- is that it's "Easier to stay sober than to get sober." Ed


Member: Ed
Location: VA
Remote Name: 68.100.37.88
Date: February 17, 2004
Time: 09:41 AM -0500

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Typos. Clear thinking, not thiniing. And excuses, not excused. Ed


Member: David
Location: GA
Remote Name: 67.33.65.124
Date: February 17, 2004
Time: 10:31 AM -0500

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Ed, Thanks for Sharing. I'm David and I'm alcoholic. And like you, I really don't have a problem in the present or the here and now. I'm not craving alcohol. It's the future that frightens me...I travel frequently for business, and invariably there will be a moment that leads to a bar or watering hole, and I will have to use every ounce of what I have learned thus far in AA in order to resist that temptation to drink. I heard a good line in one of my meetings in which somebody said that he ordered a club soda and told his cohorts that he was not drinking due to Doctor's orders...Dr. Bob of course.


Member: Ed
Location: VA
Remote Name: 68.100.37.88
Date: February 17, 2004
Time: 10:47 AM -0500

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David - Ed here, an alcoholic. I like the Doctor's orders line. I reread his story in the Big Book a couple days ago and liked his line that he used to have the privilege to drink alcohol but had abused the privilege and it had been taken away. One day at a time. Ed


Member: Adam H.
Location: New York, NY
Remote Name: 64.232.156.194
Date: February 17, 2004
Time: 11:40 AM -0500

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Adam, alcoholic. Someone once said to me that you can't eat a whole steak in one bite...you have to eat it one piece at a time. Being the shaking, crazy maniac I was when I first came in to AA, I couldn't really understand the metaphor until I thought about in relation to the slogan "One Day at a Time." When I came in, I really hated the kind of person I had become and the things I had done. Just thinking about how I could ever straighten out that mess really threw me into despair. The slogan "One Day at a Time" reminded me that the job of straightening out the rotten mess my life had become was comparable to tryng to eat a whole steak in one bite...that the job would have to be done over time and in manageable (or "swallowable") segments. That was when it occurred to me that it took years to burn my life down,a dn that it would take years to build it back up, but if I did a small part of that job every day under the guidance and direction of AA's 12 Steps, eventually, the job would get done. Doing a little bit, one day at a time, seemed like a much more reasonable thing...still is, as a matter of fact. Thanks for letting me share.


Member: michael
Location: home
Remote Name: 207.172.204.183
Date: February 17, 2004
Time: 12:41 PM -0500

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Michael:I am an alcoholic. I quit for six months and wanted a drink more everyday. I figured I could have one drink but soon found myself back drinking full time. I am going to try to quit again. now I understand one day at a time.I must walk away from it and never going back to it.


Member: Lorideann
Location: Lumby
Remote Name: 209.139.251.177
Date: February 17, 2004
Time: 02:10 PM -0500

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Lori here, I am an alcoholic who is trying to get sober. One day at a time, that is what i am trying to do. Today is day one again. Today is all I have for now. The only thing saving me is that i have to work today, and i never drink at work, it's after that scares me. I have to take it one minute at a time for now.


Member: sherry
Location: California
Remote Name: 66.229.228.207
Date: February 17, 2004
Time: 02:24 PM -0500

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Hi Sherry alcoholic, one day at a time for me again. today day 1. i hate the way i drink, its once a week but a doozy. Blacked out, passed out and don't remember. That's so bad! But thank God, your here, and i know i'm not alone. There are others that are suffering like me. I want to join the group of people who suffer like me cause others that are not alcoholics don't understand why we can't just have one drink. I wish i could have one, but that's not a reality. That's fantasy. Thanks for being here.


Member: Joe P
Location: Chicago
Remote Name: 67.73.169.179
Date: February 17, 2004
Time: 02:43 PM -0500

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My name is Joe and I am an alcoholic. One day at a time. Break things up into manageable chunks. Early on, I could not envision staying sober through certain events, so I just stayed sober one day at a time. The entire goal was to just stay sober that one day. After some time, I began to be able to see a new goal ahead. Today, I do not intend to drink again. I intend to die sober. But I know that my good intentions by themselves will not keep me sober. So in order to achieve my goal, I focus on a manageable chunk. For me the manageable chunk to achieve the goal of continuous abstinence is to practice the program of Alcoholics Anonymous and not drink for this one day. But I keep no reservations about drinking someday. The goal is ongoing sobriety, and I take the actions towards that goal ODAAT. And at any time, if I cannot see my way through, I know that I can not drink for one day, one hour, or one minute at a time. Joe - joep041699@mindspring.com


Member: katd
Location: so cal
Remote Name: 67.115.10.170
Date: February 17, 2004
Time: 03:47 PM -0500

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hi all, kathy alcoholic here. I sometimes got annoyed when all I heard all the sayings from AA. But now that I am serous and know I will do whatever it takes to stay sober they arent so annoying, they are life saving. ODAAT - like Ed and others, the rest of my life is too long to go not drinking. SOmetimes the next few days is too long. But I know now that if I can make it an hour or an evening I wont die not drinking and I can make it without the drink for at least that small amount of time. SOmetimes I have to focus on what I have to loose if I drink again (everything including a precious terrible two year old). I always have to ask my HP for help through those times. Now I am understanding (Thanks to JimR!!) that I will actually get relief if I work the steps to the best of my ability. SO my sponsor has given me writing to do on step one and we will meet every friday to go over it. I feel in a hurry to do 4-9 as that seems to be the meat of the steps where people get relief. But I am being patient and listening to my sponsor for a change. All you single Moms (and Dads) out there have lots of special prayers from me as it is tough getting to meetings and all. The stress of kids all on your own is very tough too. Thanks to you all for showing up here. ODAAT, Kathy


Member: Mav/Mark
Location: Albany, NY
Remote Name: 12.76.141.199
Date: February 17, 2004
Time: 04:16 PM -0500

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When I first started going to meetings I already knew this was one the "slogans" and it was coming sooner or later. Yet, when I heard it I couldn't help but think of when as I did/do many, or more correctly ALL, "slogans" about whence were their true origins. Well, I couldn't get that song by Marijohn Wilkins and Kris Kristofferson, "One Day At A Time Sweet Jesus" out of my freeging head, so I took to investigating. Funny thing is that is not where it came from and they in fact may have "borrowed" it from AA as she was a well-noted "heavy drinker" as was he at one point in time. She started writing it in 1968 and he helped her finish it in 1973, so go figure. I'll leave the rest of the story to anyone whom so wishes to fish it out for themselves, as it's easy enough to find out as are most of them. Well, at least to a much further point in time than 1935...Anyway, here's part of the memorable chorus that rings in my head whenever I hear this one; "Yesterday's gone sweet Jesus, and tomorrow may never be mine. Lord help me today, show me the way, One Day At A Time..."


Member: Mav/Mark
Location: Albany, NY
Remote Name: 12.76.141.199
Date: February 17, 2004
Time: 04:30 PM -0500

Comments

But just for the record, I'm not truly buying this one either. One's past and future are every bit as relevant to who an individual is as is what one is doing at any particular moment in time. It would be UNthinking and anything but "sobriety" to disregard the past and not look to the future with some hope in something. Hopefully that hope is far more than a life of life of just not drinking, but it will most likely never happen if one with a "problem" doesn't stop killing themselves first. And yeah, I still regret the past, the things are did are not to taken lightly and said to be promise of glazing over them and not being regretful. Were I to do that, I wouldn't be truly remorseful of those actions. I don't live in them, but I know what I did and I absolutely regret a lot of them, period. Starting to make up for them began one day at a time, and now I've been given the gift of the future...Imagine that...However it all started with regretting the past, and not forgetting just how deeply that pain stings. At times even now after years without drinking I still feel on occasion as though my heart has literally been burned so badly that I just know it's got blisters on it from the rawness. Yet it does beat, and I don't drink over it...One Day At A Time, forever more...Neither does anyone here have to from this moment onward...


Member: Tom A.
Location: Carlisle, AR
Remote Name: 66.112.69.77
Date: February 17, 2004
Time: 04:31 PM -0500

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Good Afternoon! I was introduced to the slogan One-Day-At-A Time in this way. Their were two speakers at this meeting and one of them said these words and my daily sobriety is based on this foundation. "Any damn fool can stay sober for twenty-four hours" That happened on July 25 1960 and it is still working. Love and prayers from an alky who cares. God Bless - Tom A.


Member: jimr
Location: chicago
Remote Name: 68.164.231.238
Date: February 18, 2004
Time: 12:26 AM -0500

Comments

Alot of wisdom on one page, alot of Love, too. Couldn't have put it better then Adam and Joe... manageble chuncks of life in one day increments. I liked the Steak reference Adam. Some great spice thrown in by Mav/Mark... not completely shutting the door on the past so we can learn from our mistakes and continue to excentuate the good that always existed in us... and the Hope for a better tomorrow. Mav, I loved the way you put that..."Hopefully that hope is far more than a life of life of just not drinking..." David, Thanks for the Doctor's orders line. I'll have to use that on the road also. Welcome Michael, Sherry, Loridean... You will never have to do this alone. And I promise if you work this program instead of try to work it, you will never have to suffer from the effects of alcohol again. You guys started the process, you noticed you can't drink without getting drunk. Another big thing to be commended on is that you know what you have become by drinking and that you want to change your lives. The first step is We Admitted(really surrendering to our inner-most self) that WE were powerless over alcohol and that OUR lives have become unmanageable. We learn to manage our lives and we learn to overcome the suffering caused by alcohol. We gain(through time) our strenth by recognizing our weaknesses. If you guys believe in a Higher Power/God, it/he/she will provide you with all the power you need to RECOVER from alcoholism. We found that lack of power was our real dilema. Once we found the power we were well on our way to recovery. katd and ed. What growth!... "If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are half way through." Promises are coming! Thanks everyone for helping me stay sober today I'll keep coming back ODAT


Member: Ann
Location: Ohio
Remote Name: 68.171.89.218
Date: February 18, 2004
Time: 05:14 AM -0500

Comments

Hi, Ann here, alcoholic and 4 1/2 months one day at a time! That is a saying that I mold my life around. Of course I use it as a way to remind myself that I an handle small chunks of time, but not the entire future. That is SO important. But most importantly, I use it as a win win! I use it to do something, not to not do something. I do something positive towards my future one day at a time, and little by little I'm getting there. One day at a time. I find that turning the tables on my disease really helps me kick it's butt! So if we all do something great for ourselves and our future one day at a time, we'll all get there together. Here's to another positive day!


Member: Les
Location: San Diego
Remote Name: 198.81.26.74
Date: February 18, 2004
Time: 10:10 AM -0500

Comments

My name is Les and I am a sober alcoholic. Thank you for the many wonderful postings. One time in early sobriety I was sitting shivering , trying not to spill my coffee and waiting for a Meeting to start when the thought came to me that I just could not face the rest of my life without a drink. I told an older man sitting next to me what I was thinking and he said that I must stop thinking that as it would make me crazy. He went on to elaborate that all I had to do was not drink today and reevaluate the idea again tomorrow. With his words I was able to concentrate on the now, the present time, and fear of the future seemed to disappear. All I had to do was not drink today and if successful tomorrow would take care of itself. I've practiced, for many years now, concentrating on the things of today and letting tomorrow take of the things of tomorrow and found that it works, it really does, and not only that but, I am getting better at it.


Member: Kim M.
Location: FL
Remote Name: 66.245.93.107
Date: February 18, 2004
Time: 10:21 AM -0500

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My mind always raced ahead of my body. Now without anything to slow me down I had to teach myself to stay in the moment, along with being teachable. One liners made me think to much; they had to be explained to me in the fullest of detail. At a meeting I heard : "True happiness is learning how to live "one day at a time", inspite of sorrow or pain. It is learning how to rejoice, no matter what happened in the past or will happen in the future. The bottom line is faith." Somehow I understood what this one liner meant. I still look for the positive each day. If the only thing I did not do today was drink, then I accomplished the greatest thing in sobriety and have received true happiness. I also found out with each passing "one day" that my faith in myself and God increased. Kim M


Member: Paul J
Location: FLORIDA
Remote Name: 66.157.196.156
Date: February 18, 2004
Time: 11:37 AM -0500

Comments

hello im an alcoholic and my names Paul when i first got sober 6months and 10 days ago well actually it was a lot longer then that im not a first time winner at this thing and im ok with that today one day at a time huh well this is my belief if it isnt in the big book its bullshit and no where in the big book does it say one day at a time it says i can go anywhere as long as i have a daily reprieve contingent on the maintenece of my spitritual condition but i dont want to sound like im an asshole but i am i think that one day at a time works if u want it to but if u dont have god in your life or a god in your life then im sorry but your going to get drunk now if u want to go ahead i dont give a shit ill be sober damn im a prick anyway i dont think im better then anyone i swear i just know from some of the things i read it sounds to me like whoever it was wanted to get drunk see this isnt a selfish program but it is at the same time cause damn it everything does revolve around me anyway i dunno where im going with this short and simple when i first got sober it helped and now since i started getting involve its better make coffe when i can and stuff like that so you guys have a nice day unless u have other plans


Member: sheri
Location: wyoming
Remote Name: 204.227.205.36
Date: February 18, 2004
Time: 11:52 AM -0500

Comments

Hello All Sheri Here With 60 ,24 Hours in a row! I know with my HP I do not have to drink today and that feels so good. I also believe that by practicing and living the program that the desire will be gone as well. Life is still difficult but by asking for his help just for today not thinking about tomorrow. I Am so grateful to the people in this program My thinking has always made this program so hard but by breaking it up into small pieces it is simple One Day At A Time Thanks Sheri


Member: Ed
Location: VA
Remote Name: 68.100.37.88
Date: February 18, 2004
Time: 07:17 PM -0500

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Congratulations on 60, Sheri. Ed, an alcoholic with 30 days today. And I can honestly say I feel much better. Makes all the difference just to see the whites of my eyes actually be white when I look into the shaving mirror in the morning. Another phrase, like One day at a time, that meant nothing to me when I first heard it is just do the next right thing. I've never been one for corny sayings -- hated mottos and mission statements in the workplace -- but sometimes they do help by reminding me to keep it simple. My mind is really good at making things so complex that I can find some kind of justification for just about anything. Then along somes "do the next right thing" and "one day at a time." Aaah, I knew that. Ed


Member: Laur H.
Location: Aurora, IL
Remote Name: 206.148.81.86
Date: February 18, 2004
Time: 09:24 PM -0500

Comments

Laure, Alcoholic Here. First, I need to thank my Creator for where I am today. Last Wednesday night I was drinking out of a 12 pack. Looking for ways to stop drinking. I had just gone to my therapist and she asked if I had ever thought of AA. No, I felt that I should be able to quit by myself. She asked me, "Then why haven't you?" That was hard to take-first admitting that I was an alcoholic and then admitting that I needed AA. I decided to keep complete anonymity and try online AA. You guys were here. I read your entries and posted my comments. I got no replies, so I thought no one wanted to answer me... A few days later I found out that the server was down. I think it was Spirit's way of inspiring me to go to an AA meeting in person. I've been to four meetings now. I can feel Spirit's love in the air there. Haven't had a drink since last Wednesday... but it is truly one day at a time. I've had miracles in my life before, but life got busy and although I prayed, I neglected to meditate and listen for and see the answers. Tonight was a close call for me. Busy teaching all day, came home with my adolescent daughters and a friend to work worked on a science fair project, talked with my Mother... all little things in life - why did I think I needed to go out and buy a six-pack? After driving the friend home I found myself near my meeting site. The meeting was half over, but I went in. They were talking about step one. Just what I needed to hear - admitting that I am powerless and need my Creator's help. I drove home and here I am 6 days sober. One day at a time...one prayer at a time. Love to each of you. Glad we are all here. prayers.


Member: Joe P
Location: Chicago
Remote Name: 209.86.104.77
Date: February 18, 2004
Time: 10:07 PM -0500

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Laur, that's really fantastic. For each of you here, not drinking today, I can only think of what a man we called Little Bill, now passed on after 29 years sober, used to say ====== HOORAY FOR OUR SIDE!


Member: michael s s
Location: s.fla
Remote Name: 152.163.252.68
Date: February 18, 2004
Time: 11:30 PM -0500

Comments

hi iam an alcoholic and iam very new to this. i tried on day at a time and failed. i mentally beat myself up and am to day three michael s s


Member: jimr
Location: chicago
Remote Name: 68.164.228.117
Date: February 19, 2004
Time: 12:06 AM -0500

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michael s s, I can relate. I use to refer to myself as the commitee of doom. We met everyday, at all hours of the day and constantly battled for control, that was our mission statement. Fear was our CEO, Resentment was the President, guilt and remorse were VP's of operations. All were fueled by alcohol. When I came to AA totally bankrupt, physically, emotionally and spiritually, I brought them all along for a new type of meeting. Many of the original board members quit going to those meetings and have since left my head and formed a hostile take over somewhere else. Thank God they are gone cause they really drove that former organization into the ground. We have since reorganized and have elected new board members, Love, tolerance and forgiveness. Operations are running pretty smooth as long as we keep fit. Best wishes, keep coming back. I did and it works. jimr s s


Member: Lorideann
Location: Lumby
Remote Name: 209.139.251.177
Date: February 19, 2004
Time: 02:50 AM -0500

Comments

Well I guess I blew it, but tomorrow is another day. Day one again. I ran into my ex, and he asked why I wasn't drinking, when I told him that I have a problem, he said I didn't. The whole time we were together he complained and now he says I don't have a problem? I think he just liked me better when I was drinking, anyway I had that drink and after 3 I left but not before he got some money out of me. I should have known, but like that first drink he made me feel better. I am more mad about the drink than the money, make sense? Anyway tomorrow will be better, I hope.


Member: Laur H.
Location: Aurora, IL
Remote Name: 206.148.80.49
Date: February 19, 2004
Time: 07:20 AM -0500

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Laure, Alcoholic, here. Good Morning to each of you! Here's a new day for us-The Creator is breathing for us, I know He is here with all of us. I hope I can make it through today with His help. Lorideann, yesterday I found out that my ex got an attorney at the last minute to fight my request in court that he pay me child support he hasn't paid in the last 6 years. He won a continuance. That brought a bunch of old memories to the surface. He has gotten a lot of sympathy money from me over the years, and has only sporadically sent the money he is supposed to for his daughter. Money. I work my butt off for it and it is hard making ends meet. Then he did that... as if he doesn't owe it to his daughter. I came so close to running out for some beer. I ran to a meeting instead. It was half over by the time I got there, but I was there for the Lord's Prayer at the end. "lead us not into temptation and deliver us from evil..." Those words and the stories I heard in that short time got me through another night. I am 7 days sober this morning, thankful that Spirit helped me through another night. One day at a time, but at least this isn't day one for me again. Lorideann and anybody else that wants to talk with a newbie, my e-mail is holt_heart@yahoo.com. Love in our hearts and thankfulness on our lips... a good way to live. Have a blessed, sober day.


Member: Ruby B
Location: In the mountains
Remote Name: 24.25.152.120
Date: February 19, 2004
Time: 09:23 AM -0500

Comments

Hi All, Ruby here, I'm back after a temporary loss Last Friday night after 13 days of being dry I was asked to stop out to a bar for a friends birthday, "just come have a soda it's tradition". Well i went and had a soda, but then i made the choice to have one beer. that is when my part of the decision process ended. about 9 hours later i passed out in my bed. that's not the worst thing, i had other commitments that night. had promised Jackie i would help with her class fund=raiser, and my son John had a hockey game( he's the goalie). i missed them all. plus my husband who has been trying hard to encourage me and stand behind me had come over and made me a nice dinner and flowers, candy the whole nine yards. But wher was i.... seeing how many different kind of shots we could get Joe to drink. But here is my point... I had one choice and i blew it. i had control over that first drink.. i could have walked out., no one was begging me to drink that one, actually Joe said "thought you weren't gonna drink?" i chose to start this mess all over again. But it still amazes me how once i had that first drink it was like my brain shut off and the only thing i could focus on was thae next drink. So anyway here i am back on day 5 and going to meetings. People, places and things.. that is what i need to change. making amends with both the kids and brian and hope once again they will forgive me. as much as it may not sound like it i rally want to get off this path of self-destruction. one day at a time is still minute to minute for me. (((Ed)) I am so proud of you man!!!!! Your doing it and your a great inspiration to me.Love you!!! ((Sheri)) congrates to you also. love to all you alkies out there, minute to minute, Ruby


Member: dave mc
Location: canada
Remote Name: 129.100.110.251
Date: February 19, 2004
Time: 09:38 AM -0500

Comments

Hi everyone, David-alcoholic, one day at at time for 8,1/2 months. Alcohol still has a huge hold over me. All the crap in life that I used to deal with by drinking is still there and I'm not very good at dealing with it sober(not a lot of practise) Anyway, there is a hint of spring in the air and I'm not hung over so I can enjoy it. That feels good. One day at a time everyone, it's great to share our efforts and our pain this way.


Member: jimr
Location: chicago
Remote Name: 64.109.136.4
Date: February 19, 2004
Time: 01:22 PM -0500

Comments

Ruby, The sooner I realized I had no choice weateher I drank or not, the better. Your story about drinking again was soooooooooooooooo boring. We'll always accept you back and I'm very happy you decided to come back, cause I relapsed enough times and know how you feel. But don't think coming back to AA will give you that needed security blanket to justify and rationalize your behavior and think that a true brother and sister in the program will continue to enable you to keep relapsing. You're obviously not ready (or maybe you now) honest enough or even willing enough to do THE WORK. Believe it or not, your chances of recovering are fading fast. The only thing you might want to consider, is taking YOURSELF out of the picture and start practicing the steps. There is only one way to get sober and you have nothing to do with that. God loves an alkie, but that doesn't mean he'll do the WORK neccesary for that alkie to recove from a hopless state of mind and body. Higher Power provides, guess what? The power. We provide the ACTION. Humilty is the neccesary element in order for us to recover from alcoholism. True humility is never sought by us at first, it's source comes from being humiliated enough times that we see it's importance. That is when we start to seek it for it true value. Out of our weakness comes our strength Good Luck.


Member: AZbill
Location: azbill1172@cox.net
Remote Name: 68.226.19.133
Date: February 19, 2004
Time: 03:34 PM -0500

Comments

HI. Bill here, alcoholic from Arizona. I was taught how not to drink ODAT by working the Steps as outlined in the Big Book. I was taught how to plan my life one day at a time. I was taught how to set goals and reach them. ODAT. At one year my sponsor asked me where I would like to be one year from that day. I chose college. In College I found out that they called sponsors tutors. I used them. One day at a time I graduated an A student with a B+ average. :) Passed two board examinations. Became respected and published and retired in my field of study. The longer I stay sober the more I am convinced that This is more a start living program than it is a stop drinking program. Any drunk fool can stop drinking if he or she wants to. It takes a bit of courage to get out there amongst them and compete. Love you all. Success is yours if you want it and are willing to work for it... Bill


Member: Ed
Location: VA
Remote Name: 68.100.37.88
Date: February 19, 2004
Time: 07:30 PM -0500

Comments

Laur, Ruby - So glad to see you both back here. The f2f meetings I'm coming to believe are more important than I thought. Missed one last night -- went an hour late -- and whatever serenity I have had seemed to be in jeopardy. I really like this forum but it can't replace going to meetings in person. AZBILL - You know, I'm getting to the place where I can at least understand what you mean. In the past couple of days, I've started peeling back some of the layers of the onion and am beginning to understand some of the underlying problems I have and need to deal with. I can begin to see now that AA can give me a lot more than sobriety -- as important as that is -- IF I really work it. Ed


Member: Gage
Location: swamp
Remote Name: 152.163.252.68
Date: February 20, 2004
Time: 03:58 AM -0500

Comments

I'm Gage and I'm an alcoholic. There's a part of the book of Alcoholics Anonymous that says that what we have is a daily reprieve from our alcoholism. In another place it says that once we have crossed a sort of invisible line into alcoholic drinking, there is no returning to ordinary drinking. That part I have proven for myself, and I now believe that in this life I'm an alcoholic util the day I die. If I want that daily reprieve, then, I must accept that it is doled out one day at a time as are my days of living. I'm very comfortable with the concept now, and I want you all to know that you will like it too if you will practice it. That's really what it takes for me -- practice. I try in each day to do the best I can, on my best days, trying to be of some use to someone other than myself. When I don't do as well as I am able, I promise myself to try to do better tomorrow, but other than that, I try to live in the context of a single day. I try to be grateful for a new day and when I'm not really feeling that way, I try to at least be willing to be grateful. It usually works. And I don't drink. It really is a good way to live and it's simple. Simple is important.


Member: Ann
Location: Ohio
Remote Name: 152.163.252.68
Date: February 20, 2004
Time: 05:30 AM -0500

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The other night I had a dream. My sponsor says they are normal. I dreamt that I was drinking again. I haven't dreamt about that for months. Why now? I also got SO mad at myself in my dream because I KNOW that I can't have even one drink. I woke up so mad at myself. Thanks to you and my belief in you that it was only a dream. I'm a first timer in this program but I try and learn from all of the people I meet and read. I will not even attempt it. Do I think I am so different, that I am better than they? That I can go out and have just one and thousands or millions of others could not. Remember that these posts are honest. They are from our hearts and souls. They are written in part to help all that read them and let them learn from our mistakes. We don't want anyone else to follow in our shoes! If you read them and believe, you will be successful. Thanks to all of your posts. (AZ Bill), please keep posting as I take yours so much to heart! You all keep me sober one day at a time! You are all the BEST!


Member: Kelly M
Location: NH
Remote Name: 205.188.208.101
Date: February 20, 2004
Time: 07:32 AM -0500

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Hi ((everybody)), Kelly here, a real alcoholic. Today is my 41st birthday and my 2nd sober one!!! I can't tell you how great it feels to spend another birthday sober. It is nice to read everyone here and I can relate to your joy's and struggles. It took me a long time to get here and a lot of honesty to keep me here. The gifts of AA are enormous and I am blessed today to live happy, joyous and free. It was something I never believed would ever happen until I SURRENDERED to alcohol. I was asked to speak on Sunday night at a meeting with 2 newcomers. I spoke right from the heart and it drained me but almost a week later I'm still on cloud 9. The two newcomers came up and talked to me after the meeting. One of the women I see everyday now and she is doing great. Last night my temp sponsee told me God is working in her life and she is receiving the gifts of AA. She is moving to Florida next month and wants me to see her get her 2 month chip! What an honor to see her turn her life around! If your struggling keep coming back. I'm going to try and have the best day I can today, sober, sane and gratefully. Kelly :)


Member: Ed
Location: VA
Remote Name: 68.100.37.88
Date: February 20, 2004
Time: 08:44 AM -0500

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Happy Birthday, Kelly! We share two things in life -- alcoholism and our birth dates. Today is my birthday as well. My first sober one. Hope to pick up a 1 month chip tonight. Of course, I haven't made it through the day yet, but I will. I now know I can do it One Day at a time. How do I know? I've already done it 31 times. All I have to do is stay in the present and stay in touch with God. Future thinking will lead me astray every time. Ed


Member: Kelly M
Location: NH
Remote Name: 205.188.208.101
Date: February 20, 2004
Time: 05:35 PM -0500

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Hey Ed, Happy Birthday to you too! Go get that chip with pride! Have a great Birthday! Kelly :)


Member: katd
Location: so cal
Remote Name: 66.123.254.226
Date: February 20, 2004
Time: 09:42 PM -0500

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Hi all, Kathy Alcoholic here. Gage, loved what you said about courage to live. I think I still lack that, as evidenced by fear of reaching out etc etc, I gotta get outta my head more. Ed and Kelly, Happy Birthday! I pray that when I turn 41 this year I will have 10 months of sober time. Ruby, glad you were honest and let us know what is up. I have been in and out lots and it is hard to keep coming back. This last time it has been very hard to stay sober. It scares me a lot, hopefully enough to prevent another relapse. ODAT though. I completed work on step one today with my sponsor and am on to 2. She is having me do reading in the 12x12, BB and writing for each step. I hope that it is thorough and works for me. It feels right to me. She is a godsend too. Anyway, I still have only been going to one or 2 meetings and am not yet a part of. I need to show up more to be a part of I think. This is going to be an important thing for me to do. Just checking in here and rambling. Dave Mc, last I remember hearing from you was when you were upset about kids and wife stuff, I am glad you are back and have stayed sober through it all. I have custody issues too and if anything will put me over the edge that will. So your sobriety is a lesson to me that we can survive custody issues, loss of children and still not drink. Thank you all !!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hugs, KathyD


Member: darwinist
Location: Minnesota
Remote Name: 66.188.212.11
Date: February 20, 2004
Time: 09:58 PM -0500

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Hey all--Paul here, recovering drug addict and hooch hound. This is my first posting. I checked myself into Hazelden back in November. I've been out for a couple of months and things are going pretty well. I'm sober, clean, working, going to 3-4 meetings a week, have a old-timer sponsor with whom I've worked the first step. Tomorrow morning, at my home group, I'll get my 3 month chip. If it wasn't for A.A. and the group here, I wouldn't have made it. I pray every day for God's will to be done and for my will to kept shut the hell up. I wish you all peace and fun in sobriety. Paul


Member: Dee N.
Location: Missouri
Remote Name: 69.23.127.56
Date: February 20, 2004
Time: 11:55 PM -0500

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I think maybe I'm earlier than early, still just trying to figure out where I'm at, still struggling at the first step. Afraid, sad, angry, discouraged resentful. Need to quit asking "why" and just deal with it. Came here (after internet search) for support, think I got it. Can't promise my tomorrows, but pretty sure I can make it through the night.


Member: Laur H.
Location: Aurora, IL
Remote Name: 206.148.80.34
Date: February 21, 2004
Time: 02:44 AM -0500

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Laure Alcoholic here. My daughters are both away for an overnight and I worried that I might take the opportunity to drink, so I've been praying all day and went to a meeting tonight. Well, I'm 8 days sober - Valentine's Day and 2/21 is my birthday and I pray that I will stay sober for that too. I am overwhelmed by the kindness of the strangers at the AA meetings. Also, by the stories and the strength of each one of these people. Tonight when we were introducing ourselves, "I'm Laure, Alcoholic" I thought, "I wonder if there are any meetings where people with diabetes or rheumatoid arthritis introduce themselves with Hi I'm Bob, Diabetic." Damn alcoholism's complexity and the way it weaves its way through our physical body, and takes advantage of our emotions, too. With the Creator's guidance I am learning that we are powerless over alcohol and this disease is only curable through the steps which begin and end with God. Lots to learn, many prayers to say. I made it through another day thanks to God. Good night all.


Member: Ed
Location: VA
Remote Name: 68.100.37.88
Date: February 21, 2004
Time: 09:10 AM -0500

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Good goin, Laure. And Happy Birthday! Ed


Member: DaveT
Location: Michigan
Remote Name: 68.62.35.118
Date: February 21, 2004
Time: 11:26 AM -0500

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Hi, I am Dave an Alcoholic. Today I was looking on line to find an AA meeting to attend in my area fir the first time because I need help. I could not find anything on line but I found this website. I have been sober for 3 days now and have trouble picturing myself as never drinking again. I read all the posts and started crying at how gracious our God is in helping all you people. For as I read the Holy spirit reminded me of what Jesus said on the Sermon on the mount at the end of Matthew chapter 6: "Therefore, do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." I hope I can find a AA meeting in my area to attend today. I am going to Germany next week and I will need alot of help to "keep one day at a time". Thank you all and I will pray for you.


Member: MJ
Location: Japan
Remote Name: 218.121.220.146
Date: February 21, 2004
Time: 11:36 AM -0500

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Hi guys & gals. I'm "new" sorta, kinda. Dad's an old timer in the program so I know alot about AA. I stopped drinking Dec 28th and I'm doing OK. No cravings yet... a tug here, a bit of listlessness there... just whispers. So one day at a time has been unchallenged to date. However, something has unexpectantly cropped up which I'll try to shoe horn into this theme. Now that I've stopped I find family and friends giving a quiz of sorts so as to determine whether or not if I am "really" an alcoholic. This is very, very frustrating because I know why I quit (and why I had been wanting to quit for a long time) and I don't feel I have to justify, prove or claim anything to anyone. I just don't want to drink today. Tomorrow? Well, that's tomorrow. Perhaps there is some greater wisdom I am missing, but I do not have the luxery of daily meetings at convenient times and locations. I focus on two main ideas I picked up from the old man: keep it simple & One day at a time. They are quite plain expressions, but like duct tape and binder twine, they do the job, which is getting from work to home without stopping for that "one" drink. This is not a permanent solution, but that's where I'm at today. - MJ


Member: jimr
Location: chicago
Remote Name: 64.109.136.4
Date: February 21, 2004
Time: 12:57 PM -0500

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Good Luck Dee! If you have a problem with drinking and are dealing with unmanageble emotions, there is a solution, you're in the right place (although a real meeting would be more effective) Happy B-Day Laur. You are on the right track! It does get better, not easier. It only works if you do the work, do whats in front of you today. Dave T. When AA was founded in 1935, Dr. Bob Smith and Bill Wilson (co-founder), and especially the original Akron Ohio Group relied heavily on the "the Sermon on the Mount" among other passages from the Book of James, Corinthians, and Matthew, as well as other spiritual sources and the medical community, specializing in the physical and mental aspects of alcoholism. AA is not allied with any religion, sect, or body of politics, but you will find that its members rely heavily on spirual sources/higher Power of their own conception/ spirituality in general, even for the non-beleivers, many rely on God. You can check out how AA was founded (one of many sources) online at http://www.aabibliography.com/dickbhtml/article01.html M.J. Your heart can only tell you what you feel, not other people. Welcome. For anyone wanting to know more about AA local meetings click on or paste this site onto your web browser. http://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org/default/en_contact.cfm Best wishes for all!


Member: dodiz
Location: canada
Remote Name: 205.207.69.23
Date: February 21, 2004
Time: 06:41 PM -0500

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dodi here alcholic, I would like to thank all of you for your postings. I havent been here in a very long time and today was NOT GOOD, I had really decided to have that first drink and I called my friend and told her and she came right over for a talk, thank my HP for that, then I decided to come here and I am so glad I did, your postings about this subject really hit home for me. so very glad for this site thank you all so very much.one day is all i can handle for now


Member: Grateful to be sober
Location: Michigan
Remote Name: 216.86.80.12
Date: February 21, 2004
Time: 07:45 PM -0500

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(dodiz) great job! You did the footwork, did the right things and avoided hell for another day! I have a few twenty four hours to date, yet I am just as close to that first drink as the person with 1 day of sobriety. That is all any of us have, a day at a time. Do the footwork, hang with the winners (sober people)and trust in God. ((MJ)) My brother did the same thing to me when I finally told people I was an alcoholic. Sometimes people only see what they want to see and the problems are not obvious to them. But you are getting sober for you, not anyone else. If you look at it this way, you can just smile and let them think what they will. You are saving yourself. Love to all


Member: Liz H
Location: chappaqua, NY
Remote Name: 205.188.208.101
Date: February 21, 2004
Time: 08:02 PM -0500

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Liz here, alcoholic.....Way to go Dodi!! What a concept one day at a time was to me when i first came around. In all of my arrogance i found it eextremely demeaning that it was suggested that we "couldn't handle" thinking about something for more than one day at a time. Thank god for humility!! Now, i am able to breathe easy and know that taking things one day at a time is the easier softer way to getting and staying sober. Yes, there is need to plan but as alcoholics we ususally tend to "project" and in that there is no good. Asking for a "daily reprieve" is how i start my day and, based on my spiritual condition (which varies from day to day) i receive the grace to see it through....Remember, with one foot in yesterday and one foot in tomorrow, we sh-- all over today; and today is "the present" so let's open it carefully.....Blessings


Member: Becca S
Location: Winter Park, Florida
Remote Name: 65.33.41.237
Date: February 21, 2004
Time: 09:30 PM -0500

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Way to go (((dodiz))). For me the compulsion to drink did not go away very easily. I was in my own tug of war for at least 6 maybe 8 weeks. I had to take it one minute at a time a LOT!! hang in there, I am still staying sober one day at a time.....I am greatful to my HP which I choose to call God, that I have been able to string a few together, my prayers are with you during this very trying time of sobriety, keep up the awesome work, YOU used your tools!!!!Keep them sharp!!! Call any recovering alcoholic BEFORE you drink!!!Congrats!!!Well Done...Love in the fellowship, Becca S.


Member: Kelly M
Location: NH
Remote Name: 205.188.208.101
Date: February 22, 2004
Time: 01:18 AM -0500

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Hey ((Laure)), HAPPY BIRTHDAY...A bit late. Just got in from a concert with my son. It was his birthday present to me. I had a blast and I was sober and could actually go...what a gift to be sober at 8pm at night. It's the little things that I have back like the ability to spend an entire day without a drink that I appreciate so much. I never drew a sober breath for 2 years so I am seeing sobriety through new eyes. If your struggling with your will then your fighting when you need to be surrendering. I had no idea what surrendering was but it is like letting yourself be tortured until you scream, enough, stop! Only when the pain was excrutiating could I let go and cease struggling. Once I ceased struggling the mental obsession went away for me. ((This is for Mc)), I told my sponsee that is sober and going through a divorce to keep this quote with her divorce paperwork. "Put aside from yourself the belief that "I have been wronged" and with it will go the feeling. Reject your sense of injury and the injury itself disappears". Marcus Aurelius. Nite all, Kelly :)