Member: Les
Location: San Diego
Remote Name: 198.81.26.74
Date: January 18, 2004
Time: 03:58 PM -0500

Comments

Whenever I can take the next indicated step and not worry about how it turns out, try to ignore expectations, and leave the results up to God, my life goes better.


Member: Glen H
Location: Tx
Remote Name: 4.62.113.6
Date: January 18, 2004
Time: 06:14 PM -0500

Comments

test


Member: Joel L
Location: alaska
Remote Name: 209.112.220.150
Date: January 18, 2004
Time: 07:14 PM -0500

Comments

Joel, alcoholic, that reminds me of a passage i read out of the big book i think. Every time i drive i crack-up but if i just let god drive everything goes much better.It is very hard to let go of the wheel but always a relief to let somebody else take the burden..thanks for being there....


Member: Jenny M.
Location: Washington
Remote Name: 198.81.26.40
Date: January 18, 2004
Time: 11:12 PM -0500

Comments

Hi I'm Jenny an alcoholic. That was funny Joel. I never thought of that. I don't think I would let go of the wheel and let God take over. Does this mean I don't have total faith?? No but I know that I don't have control over much and that I am good at trying. If I let myself be in control I would still be drinking. I don't know what finally made me give it up. I do know that I had to get in alot of trouble first. When I relate all that trouble back to my drinking WOW what a trip. How much alcohol can screw up your life and those close to you. Another 24 hours under my belt.


Member: stanly
Location: mi
Remote Name: 12.73.153.16
Date: January 19, 2004
Time: 02:40 AM -0500

Comments

Miracle, some of us stopped.


Member: Ann
Location: Ohio
Remote Name: 152.163.252.68
Date: January 19, 2004
Time: 04:49 AM -0500

Comments

What a great topic. First things first. I think this is one of the most important things in my sobriety. And I believe that something that goes right along with this is patience. When I was drinking, I didn't have any patience and I would just jump into things. Usually messing something up because when I did that, I didn't think it ALL the way thru. Now, everyday I get more and more patient. I listen to everything someone has to say before responding. I make sure that I have received all the information I need before stepping in and answering, or acting upon it. I have found out that when you give people that chance to fully explain themselves, they leave themselves open for me to control the situation. And right now at the beginning of my sobriety, control is important. I need to control what I do, and what other people do to me. I need to make sure that I handle me first. First things first. Here's to another 24 to all. And remember you first. You are the most important now.


Member: Craig L (Dogmanor@yahoo.com)
Location: Aloha, Oregon
Remote Name: 24.21.49.242
Date: January 19, 2004
Time: 08:00 AM -0500

Comments

When I was in the detox unit, my mind started taking me into worry and fear about all the things awaiting me when I left. The truth was I didn't have anything I could do at that moment, but try to stay present. When I dwell in the past or let my mind scare me with the horrible things that might happen, I might drink again out of desperation. When I remind myself there is nothing in this very moment I can't handle and I do what is in front of me to do, I get to keep the Peace I have found in AA and the 12 steps.


Member: Adam H.
Location: New York, NY
Remote Name: 64.232.156.194
Date: January 19, 2004
Time: 11:33 AM -0500

Comments

Adam, alcoholic. I may not have everything I want today, but I want everything I have...even the difficulties are a hell of a lot better than the ones I had before AA. The good stuff, on the other hand, is phenomenal, and all of it is the result of putting the principles of Alcoholics Anonymous first in my life. Accordingly, anything I put ahead of staying sober, I will lose. That is what first things first means to me...God and AA first, everything else after that. Thank you for letting me share.


Member: Scott K.
Location: Northeast
Remote Name: 13.13.137.1
Date: January 19, 2004
Time: 11:42 AM -0500

Comments

Hi, My name is Scott and I'm an alcoholic. The first thing that has to be first above all for me is not to take that first drink. As long as I do not drink, everything else has fallen into place. It is pretty amazing how much better my life has gotten in the last 23months and how much better it will get in the days to come as long as I don't drink. I could never learn that before, the first drink was always the one that got me drunk. It took me years to realize that fact, I was so pig headed!! I finally did learn that in the rooms and it has been progress ever since. Not "peaches and cream" but real progress. Feeling great today, Scott K.


Member: Rebecca S
Location: Winter Park, Florida
Remote Name: 65.33.44.186
Date: January 19, 2004
Time: 12:57 PM -0500

Comments

Great topic...First things First... I have to remember that every single day. I am still very new (DOS June 13,2003)I am a single Mom of 3 boy's. I can so easily get caught up in my day to day routine/resposibilities, hence, put my program in the back seat. When I do, things slowly crumble, then rapidly crumble if I don't catch it in time. Did this last week...it got UUUGGLLLYYY!!! When I recognized what was happening, I quickly prayed, called my sponsor and my other AA buddies, and went to a f2f immediately. Strange how those simple steps can get you centered almost at once.. What a blessing...what a Grace. This program saved my life. You ALL save my life daily. Just knowing there are other people who suffer from the same disease I have is of comfort when I can't find any other comfort. Thanks for being here....still sober, Peace, Rebecca


Member: Gypsy
Location: NJ
Remote Name: 165.230.20.7
Date: January 19, 2004
Time: 02:00 PM -0500

Comments

Hey there - Since I have come back this time (DOS 12/22/03), I have changed what DIDN'T work. Right now, I don't drink and go to meetings. I am taking suggestions, I am trying to just listen and stay teachable. I have put the chaos of my life in order (or at least I am planning it and keeping it in order!) In other words, I have Good Orderly Direction right now. But FIRST, I must stay sober to have any of that fall into place for me. So I don't drink, and go to meetings.....


Member: Rebecca S
Location: Winter Park, Florida
Remote Name: 65.33.44.186
Date: January 19, 2004
Time: 02:27 PM -0500

Comments

(((Gypsy)))) HANG ON!!! ODAAT, keep up the good work----Sober Friend, Rebecca


Member: Kelly M
Location: NH
Remote Name: 64.222.178.139
Date: January 19, 2004
Time: 11:23 PM -0500

Comments

Hi ((All)), Good job Gypsy! To get AA to work you have to take suggestions and stay teachable. Awesome! First things first means take it one step at a time for me. I went to meetings and listened for a few months. I focused on step 1 and I knew I was ready for step 2 by seeing that my own life was improving. Lots of good advice to take it easy from old timers too. I'm not pushing my way through the steps but feeling inside when I'm ready to move forward. There were times when I just wanted to get it all by osmosis but the recovery is in doing the program as it is laid out. This isn't a quick study but a way of life I'm learning. We have to crawl before we can walk so I'm a "toddler" right now pulling myself up on the furnature! The joy is in the journey, Kelly :)


Member: Ann
Location: Ohio
Remote Name: 205.188.208.101
Date: January 20, 2004
Time: 07:28 AM -0500

Comments

110 days. First things first thing in the morning. Reading all of your posts and gaining strenth from every one of them and you! I've just recharged for another great day. Here's to all of us working it one day at a time. Remember that it gets better with every new sober day!


Member: jimr
Location: chicago
Remote Name: 64.109.136.4
Date: January 20, 2004
Time: 03:47 PM -0500

Comments

Through the years since this program started, certain sayings/thoughts/cliches in AA have been misconstrued or watered down by the membership as a whole. And thats okay to a certain extent as long as some good comes out of the original saying/thoughts/cliches. "First things First." is one such saying that gets thrown around losely. You'll find it on the walls of A.A. meetings and in A.A. literature. Dr. Bob made it clear that the expression came from "the Sermon on the Mount" (Matthew 6:33–"But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness"). Our founders relied heavily on the bible and the teachings of first century christianity taught by the oxford group. It's all good if it keeps you sober. Basically, First things first means in order to stay sober, we are to rely on our Higher Power First and foremost. Once we find the spirit, We basically enter Spiritual Kindergarten in this life. Bill W. said that. We learn to tap into something in ourselves that was actually present in all of our lives all along... God/HP. Once we decide what that power was, a PROGRAM OF ACTION shows us a process to re-connect to it. After the Big Book was written, we finally had clear-cut directions on how to solve our dilema. "Lack of power was our dilema. We had to find a power in which we could live, and it had to be a Power Greater than ourselves. Obviously. But where and how were we to find this Power?" BB page. 45 We Agnostics. What ever power we found and now we rely on, especially in early sobriety, tapping into that Power has to come FIRST. Without using that power first, we will pick up that first drink. And for us, to drink is to surely die. They didn't mean that we die in just a physical sense. They also meant that we die emotionally and spiritually. Which is worse then actually dying to me. Someone had mentioned earlier about progress, not perfection. I used to say..."Hey, I'm not perfect either are you, so get off my back... it's progress not perfection." It was pointed out to me by an outspoken guy with good sobriety (a surly Red Cap from Amtrack) that I used that expression to justify my laziness... He said, "It's not progress... not perfection, dummy... Have you really listened to How it works?... Then he qouted with FEELING & LOUDLY "It's that we are willing to grow along spiritual lines. The Priciples we have set down are guides to progress. We Claim SPIRITUAL PROGRESS rather than SPIRITUAL PERFECTION, YOU IDIOT! Thank God for my ignorance and thank God Jerry was frustrated enough to hear another good AA saying being used out of context, once again. In the back of the Book, I think in appendix II, it describes "Spiritual Experience" " THE terms "spiritual experience" and "spiritual awakening" are used many times in this book which, UPON CAREFUL READING, shows that the PERSONALITY CHANGE sufficient to bring about RECOVERY from alcoholism has manifested itself among us in many different forms." Notice they don't use the word God, we know better. It's concience contact or use of that power that will keep you sober. The more I tap in to the power the more I strive to emulate the goodness from the power. The compulsion is lifted only through action (steps) though. When they say "recovered" they are saying recovered from a hopeless state of mind and body, not cured of the physical aspects of our disease. We'll never be cured from the allergy which triggers the phenomena of craving. That is a physical flaw in our bodies we (science) can't fix yet. But we can and do recover from the mental and physical hopelessness, the Malady of the spirit and the obcession of the mind. But only if we are able to tap into our own conception of a Higher Power. First things first. P.S. If I take my hands off the wheel and let God drive, I'd run into a tree. But I can ask God for the strength and courage to learn how to drive better and avoid that tree. Thank God this is a WE program, otherwise I would have never learned this stuff on my own. Thank God for Jerry's impatience with me. This spiritual kit (AA and the Steps) has been laid at our feet. It's up to us to pick up the tools and USE them.


Member: Kelly M
Location: NH
Remote Name: 64.222.178.139
Date: January 20, 2004
Time: 11:14 PM -0500

Comments

Hi ((jimr)), Thanks, I had no idea that's what it meant! Thanks for explaining it and passing on the message. Kelly :)


Member: KateG
Location: Washington
Remote Name: 165.121.25.43
Date: January 21, 2004
Time: 01:35 AM -0500

Comments

Ummm, I have no clue as to what I am doing, really. I have finally just admitted (about two hours ago) to my husband of seven years that I drink every day. He is very understanding yet wants me to quit, obviously. So do I but I have tried A LOT of times and it works for awhile but then it doesn't. I am a stay-at-home-mom and have two boys,, 3 and 6. Th eolder one is in school, at least. It is not the kids, I have tried working, I just always find a way to drink somehow. Is there ANYBODY like me out there? I doubt it but I am curious. Kate P.S. my husband is in the military and deployed a LOT. Does anyone else find this to be difficult?


Member: jeff t
Location: new jersey
Remote Name: 68.45.208.164
Date: January 21, 2004
Time: 07:44 AM -0500

Comments

hi im jeff im alcoholic 1st time here i think ill just listen thank you for having me


Member: Scott K.
Location: Northeast
Remote Name: 13.13.137.1
Date: January 21, 2004
Time: 07:53 AM -0500

Comments

Hi, My name is Scott and I am an alcoholic. Thanks Jimr, very well put!!! Kate, I may be a Man but all of us alcoholics have similar characteristics. The biggest mistake I made was to think I was different when I really was not. In the program of AA, some of us call this "terminal uniqueness" and believe me, it just keeps us in the same patterns of drinking, quitting for awhile, picking up again, etc. I did that for years and just keep getting deeper and deeper into alcoholism. I commend you for telling your husband about your problem, I just couldn't admit to my wife that I had a problem but I did admit it to my daughter who was very supportive and encouraged me to go to AA meetings which I had been avoiding. It took me a few weeks of stewing but I finally was beaten down enough to give in, admit that I was powerless over alcohol and that my life had become unmanageable (step 1) and find a meeting. Since then (Feb '02), it has been up hill all the way. Where there is a real will, there will be a way for you to go to regular meetings even if you have to take your kids while your hubby is out of town or find someone to watch them. Believe me, your family will be better off with a sober Mom and wife and will soon realize that this program is important, not just for you, but for them also. God bless and keep coming back, Scott K.


Member: Dustine M.
Location: Reading, P.A.
Remote Name: 68.82.102.229
Date: January 21, 2004
Time: 08:37 AM -0500

Comments

HI, MY NAME IS DUSTINE, AND IM AN ALCOHOLIC.THIS IS MY FIRST TIME AT THIS MEETING.FIRST THINGS FIRST IS A GOOD TOPIC BECAUSE I KNOW,U HAVE TO PUT MY SOBRIETY FIRST OR ALL OTHER THINGS WILL FAIL. IM NEW IN RECOVERY AND IM LEARNING THAT AS LONG AS I STAY CLEAN THINGS WILL FALL INTO PLACE. THANKS FOR LETTING ME SHARE!!


Member: Dustine M.
Location: Reading, P.A.
Remote Name: 68.82.102.229
Date: January 21, 2004
Time: 08:43 AM -0500

Comments

i meantI not U


Member: sherry
Location: California
Remote Name: 66.229.228.207
Date: January 21, 2004
Time: 11:52 AM -0500

Comments

cheryl, alcoholic, so i tried to have one drink last nite. today im hung over. drank a bottle of rum. i thought it would make me feel better. well it did for the nite but today im dealing with it. first things first dont touch alcohol. one drink will get u drunk at least it did me. so today thank god im alive thank god i can be here u are a lifesaver.


Member: Casey W.
Location: West Texas
Remote Name: 68.224.213.242
Date: January 21, 2004
Time: 12:23 PM -0500

Comments

Hi, I'm Casey, alcoholic. Yep, first thing in the morning, I ask for help to make it through the day sober and to do the right thing by myself and to others. When I do this rigorously and honestly, things seem to go well. Last thing I do at night is say a prayer thanking my higher power for helping me make it through another day sober.


Member: KellyM
Location: WA
Remote Name: 63.149.217.4
Date: January 21, 2004
Time: 12:35 PM -0500

Comments

first things first means taking care of #1 one - you. you have to first or everyone else around you will suffer from it.


Member: Lily
Location: PQ
Remote Name: 206.167.250.41
Date: January 21, 2004
Time: 01:20 PM -0500

Comments

(((Kate G)) HI! and Welcome! Yes there are people like you, so much like you!!!! I am not a stay at home mom, I am a teacher and I have 2 kids (also 3 and 6). And I used to drink almost everyday with my husband. On new year's day I decided that it was enough, that I didn't want to live like that anymore, that I wanted to get up refreshed in the morning. I didn't want to get up and just wait for the moment I would go to bed again. I also am in my 7th year of marriage !!! and of course my husband knows that I stopped (still going strong after 21 days!) he is supportive and it also helped reduce the amount he's drinking. I find it a bit more difficult in social situations but I found a 0% alcohol wine that I like and non-alcoholic beer does the job. At least I don't feel apart sitting at the table for a good dinner. The most important thing is that I haven't felt that good in years, I'm proud of myself and I feel that I'm a much better mother (more patient and attentive and my mind is 100% with them). So all that to say that you are not alone KATE and that I'M sure that you can do it. Keep posting, I'll read you Good Luck ;)


Member: katd
Location: so cal
Remote Name: 67.115.10.149
Date: January 21, 2004
Time: 04:27 PM -0500

Comments

Hi, Kathy Alcoholic here, thanks yet again to you all and especially ((JimR)) for the info. That explanation of FTF makes the most sense to me. It is very clear to me that I am unable to stop drinking. I do not have the defenses within me to fight this disease. However, if I truly ask God/HP for His help, admit that I can not do this, but I know that God/HP can, He helps me through those agonizing moments of craving a drink. I almost drank last night. Had a horrid day and all I wanted to do was to do something “for me” to relax or tune out. Wrong. Drinking is not something I do for me. I do it against me. I called a woman I met at a meeting the night before (first time I have actually used the phone instead of drinking in my 8 years in and out of these rooms). I told her how I was feeling, we talked, I prayed, and low and behold I made it through the eve without a drink. That was not my doing, that was God/HP and the program. I am really struggling with the fact that I have been around the program for so long and yet can’t stay sober. I think that I do not deserve a sponsor since I am an AA looser. I think that maybe it won’t work for me for more than a couple years at a time (the truth is I stop working it, I know that), blah blah blah….poor Kathy, anyway…. ((KateG in WA)) – being a stay at home mom of 2 busy boys, with lots of time without your husband, sounds like a tough place to be in. You are in the role of give-give-giver. I guess it seems to me like you need to take a little. Take an hour when you can to go to a meeting, log on here, chill out in the tub, whatever you can get. I will pray for you to get to a meeting and meet a sponsor to help you out. We all need help. I know that. I can’t do it alone, tried that for a long time. Take care all...k


Member: MaryP
Location: Oklahoma City
Remote Name: 68.12.212.137
Date: January 21, 2004
Time: 06:51 PM -0500

Comments

Hi, I'm Mary. This is my first time here. I'm sober today and want to make it through this. Alcohol is destroying my life. I got a DUI in December. Last night my boyfriend of a year and a half got REALLY mad at me because of my drinking. It will probably split us up. I've gone to a counselor also and spilled my guts out to her. I'm at the bottom looking up. It's hard, very hard, but I know I'll make it. Thanks for being here and listening to me.


Member: Rebecca S
Location: W
Remote Name: 65.33.44.186
Date: January 21, 2004
Time: 09:54 PM -0500

Comments

((Hello All)) Rebecca here. Alcoholic. Still sober. DOS 6/13/2003. I am still very new to this prog. but it has indeed changed my life. I have had some really great things happen, and some really TRAGIC things happen since I came to AA. I have found that when I put FTF..it always works out. Don't Drink, talk to another AA, go to meetings, pray, pray and oh did I forget to say, PRAY? LOL..This prog. is the only thing that has ever worked for me. I have learned so much about myself and "Life on Life's terms". I am so greatful for that. ((Mary P.)) Welcome..enjoy yourself here. Some really wonderful people!!!!Great support too... may I suggest going over to the Coffee Pot, a lot of great stuff there too.... ((Dustine))Welcome, good luck to you my friend, You will be in my prayers.. ((Sherry)) Welcome BACK.. I hope you stay!!God does too. You are lucky to make it back and I hope everyone can inspire you to stay. One minute and sometimes one second at a time works.You are in my Prayers!! (((Lily))) Hi, welcome, Just a suggestion about 0%wine and "non"-alcoholic beer. This in my opinion only, can trigger the phenomenon of craving if you are truely an alcoholic,(only you may decide the answer to that..)I agree, it does separate you at a social gathering (if you allow it) but, you are the one with a problem. Some folks can drink like "normal" people. Alcoholics like me, can't. I feel "romancing" the idea of a drink..ie:something tasting similar, is counter productive in my program.. ONLY MY opinion...Again, I am only a mere 7mos 8days sober...Good luck!!!Congrats on 21day's, glad hubby is supportive.... Peace, hope I don't come across like I am "lecturing".....Take care. ((ALL)) God Bless....Peace, still sober Rebecca!


Member: katd
Location: so cal
Remote Name: 67.117.217.145
Date: January 21, 2004
Time: 09:58 PM -0500

Comments

Hi this is Kathy - alcoholic, again...wanted to respond to ---Mary from OK---- Mary - click on last weeks Meetings link, then scroll down to JimR posting of 1/16, the whole deal is laid out pretty simple and very clear. Glad you came here. Are you an alcoholic? Keep posting here and reading to learn that there is hope and help for the most miserable of us! U R N my prayers....kathy


Member: Mark N.
Location: Niagara Falls (slowly I turn)
Remote Name: 128.205.248.235
Date: January 21, 2004
Time: 10:11 PM -0500

Comments

Hi everyone. I am Mark and I am still a drunk. I have been going to AA since April of 03 and spent some time on research and development. My sobriety is about a month young today (dos Dec 15, 03. I have done some things different this time and understand that ftf is a key to succeeding in sobriety. God has played a large part this time and He will always be first in my thoughts now.


Member: Kathy K.
Location: Northeast
Remote Name: 152.163.252.68
Date: January 22, 2004
Time: 05:14 AM -0500

Comments

LILY -PQ - Please rethink your using a non-alcoholic wine and near-beer. Don't let it matter that you might stand out at the table. Best you not pretend these are OK. Near-beer does have some alcohol in it. Please keep posting - you can make it!!


Member: Ann
Location: Ohio
Remote Name: 64.12.96.44
Date: January 22, 2004
Time: 07:36 AM -0500

Comments

Hi. I wondered when someone would bring up the "non-alcoholic" beer and wine. I wondered about that myself. Then I came to the realization that only alcoholics think about what others think about drinking or non-drinking...and besides, that stuff really doesn't taste very good. :) Non alcoholics don't even think about it. If you are not drinking, it is because you are not drinking. Quite simple really. I have taken to iced tea. Or even a designer water once in a while. The only person who is concerned with your not drinking is you. It's o.k..Really. If you think of alcohol like you do lima beans, you know that some people just don't eat lima beans. As we say, keep it simple stupid.. hey, you might even be a trend setter! Here's to another sober 24 for all of us!..and thank you for the great posts!


Member: wendy
Location: florida
Remote Name: 205.188.208.101
Date: January 22, 2004
Time: 01:26 PM -0500

Comments

Hey, I am comming back after 10 years of struggling with my pride and denial. First things first, well right now I am over welmed. I know that I am an alcoholic, I guess that is the first thing.


Member: jimr
Location: chicago
Remote Name: 64.109.136.4
Date: January 22, 2004
Time: 01:38 PM -0500

Comments

Katd Although I felt gult and remorse and feelings of unworthyness when I was a constant relapser, I found that I needed to pursue that path to finally get "it". Remember we are never cured from the physical aspects of alcoholism "the first drink leading to the phenamena of craving" that will never go away until, probably, someone in the future finds a genetic cure to stop or retard the chemical process. Maybe thats a good thing or a bad thing, because if wasn't for me wanting to stop drinking cause my life was so unmanageble, I would never of had the spiritual awakening. That is what I'm most grateful for. There is Hope for everyone however, lots of it, tons of hope from millions of people, through AA. We can and do recover from that hopeless state of mind and body, the mental obcession and the spiritual malady through WORKING the steps and learning from other alcoholics who have "It". It has been said from many wise people through the ages, that Happiness IS NOT the destination. Why try to achieve it as an end result? We FIND happiness in the Journey (learning to live again each day.) In order to experience happiness, not find it, we work the steps and finally understand our Spirit, ourselves and the world around us for the first time in our lives. We come to believe that "It" is purely a gift that we cherish and strive for everyday.


Member: Donna R.
Location: New York
Remote Name: 205.188.208.101
Date: January 22, 2004
Time: 02:10 PM -0500

Comments

Donna Alcoholic and Addict. I am early recovery. I have 96 days today. I go to my home group at 6:30 a.m. every morning. This starts my day great, but in the afternoons I sometimes have some free time which I try to fill because this was the dangerous time for me. So I decided to go on the internet and do AA research and I found this website which I think is wonderful. I believe "first things first" for me is my sobriety comes first and everything else will follow. I can't believe that something like this website exists. This is a very good thing. Thanks for being here.


Member: AZbill
Location: azbill1172@cox.net
Remote Name: 68.226.19.154
Date: January 22, 2004
Time: 03:21 PM -0500

Comments

HI. Bill here. Alcoholic from Arizona. "First Things First" and two other sayings and the reason for them can be found on page 135 in the big book. I did a lot of damage when I was drinking. A lot of things needed to be cleaned up. A lot of other bad habits had been formed. But first I had to take care of my more serious ailment. Alcoholism. Before I could do anything well, I needed to get into recovery. First I needed to get sober. Thank you very much I love you. Bill


Member: jimr
Location: chicago
Remote Name: 64.109.136.4
Date: January 22, 2004
Time: 04:37 PM -0500

Comments

Good Sites to check out http://www.xa-speakers.org/ and http://www.thejaywalker.com/ @ xa-speakers you you can open and download inspirational speakers from AA in MP3 files The jaywalker.com has the famous jaywalker parable from the Big Book, amoung other good articles, AA history, photos, and papers on alcoholism. Check out The "Tiebolts papers" on "the Ego factors in Surrender in Alcohlism"


Member: Reena B.
Location: NY
Remote Name: 64.9.117.2
Date: January 23, 2004
Time: 09:16 AM -0500

Comments

Hi my name is Maureen and I am an Alcholic! Wow, Its been a long time. This is my first "Meeting" comment in 4 years. I'm not going to tell my story here but I have been in and out of AA all my life. I joined first when I was 14 and stayed for 6 years. Joined again when I was 27 and stayed for 20 years and I am back again at 48. I am powerless over alcohol and my life has become unmanagable. A functional alcholic, i am lousing the "functional" part. I have tried to quit on my own many times over the last few years only to go back and start all over again. I would like not to have to drink, that is why I am here. I have taken the first step and between God and AA I hope I stay stoped. One day at a time. Thanks for listining.


Member: Ann
Location: Ohio
Remote Name: 152.163.252.68
Date: January 23, 2004
Time: 09:41 AM -0500

Comments

Hi, Ann here. 113 days. Yesterday I lost a good friend. Wasn't very old. In his early 40's. Old boyfriend, old drinking buddy. Last time he saw me he commented on how good I looked and how proud he was of me that I stopped drinking. He said he should do the same. I offered him my help if he wanted it. We don't know what ultimately killed him, but the alcohol didn't help. Remember to cherish each and every day, as you don't know what tomorrow will bring. I am so grateful I'm sober today to remember him by. Thanks to all.. and here's to another sober, thankful, 24 hours.


Member: Shel S.
Location: NE
Remote Name: 12.163.61.45
Date: January 23, 2004
Time: 12:44 PM -0500

Comments

Adam's comments are worth repeating, and just what I needed to hear today. Thanks! "I MAY NOT HAVE EVERYTHING I WANT TODAY, BUT I WANT EVERYTHING THAT I HAVE"


Member: sheri
Location: wyoming
Remote Name: 204.227.205.36
Date: January 23, 2004
Time: 03:06 PM -0500

Comments

Sheri here Still a alki-addict but ODAAT for me first things first is like many others here to stay sober and keep things simple I am very grateful to you all for sharing and alowing me to do the same heres another site to check out brand new to the internet the need people http://www.onlineaameeting.com Check them out Sheri


Member: sheri
Location: wyoming
Remote Name: 204.227.205.36
Date: January 23, 2004
Time: 03:10 PM -0500

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http://www.onlineaameeting.com/ heres the good one


Member: katd
Location: so cal
Remote Name: 67.117.218.30
Date: January 23, 2004
Time: 05:59 PM -0500

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Hi, Kathy Alcoholic here, thanks for the pep talk/advice ((JIMR)). I know I need to do the steps. I want to. I just let fear run too much of my life it seems. I am figuring out how to change that. FYI I went to the coffe pot to look for Les from San Diego, and was way lost and confused by all the postings and insider discussions, it seemed at least. It seemed like everone was having a discussion of their own. I was very confusing. I like this section (Early Sobriety) way better. Welcome to ((ReenaB)). I hope this time we both stick around and get it for the rest of our lives ODAAT. Havent drank but still evenings are hard to get through. I need to get used to picking up the phone. Looking for the courage/desparation to ask this one woman to be my sponsor. What is that fear all about? Anyway. Thanks for listening. My love to you all. Kathy


Member: dave jr
Location: ohio
Remote Name: 205.188.208.101
Date: January 23, 2004
Time: 07:39 PM -0500

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hello all i am dave, a greatfully recovering alcoholic/addict. i go to alot of meetings and actually listen and usually get alot out of them. i heard a saying that stands out for me in my recovery and hopefully will help someone else. at first at meetings i was the one that didnt want to be there, but then i keep remembering the saying, "bring the body and the mind will follow." Sober for today as i take things one day at a time.


Member: Ed
Location: VA
Remote Name: 68.100.37.88
Date: January 23, 2004
Time: 10:34 PM -0500

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Hi, Ed an alcoholic who may finally be accepting that. At least I hope so. I've had several false starts here the past couple of months, and the only thing positive that I can say for myself is that I'm still trying. I want to thank those of you who post here for the encouragement I've gotten. A special thanks to JimR, who has been really helpful, and to whoever it was that suggested that we go back and read his comments of Jan. 16. Went to a face-to-face meeting tonight and doubt I would have without JimR's postings. I went fairly regularly earlier this year before dropping out and picking up. Think I'm now ready to accept that AA has a better way than anything I can come up with on my own. I have 4 days sober and want to build on that One Day At A Time. Maybe one hour at a time if need be. Yesterday at about 4pm I asked God to just get me thru the next 3 hours. I was feeling weak, but if I can get past the cocktail hour I'm usually okay. He did. Thanks for letting me ramble and thanks to all of you. Ed


Member: Rebecca S
Location: W
Remote Name: 65.33.44.186
Date: January 24, 2004
Time: 01:27 AM -0500

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(((Kat d))) Rebecca S here. Alcoholic. I agree about the Pot...tough section lately. They can get a little "off track". Hang in there. I am new too. DOS 6/13/2003. I am glad your here. I have read your shares on the Pot and I think in here too....ODAAT....Peace Rebecca..


Member: Kelly M
Location: NH
Remote Name: 64.223.185.72
Date: January 24, 2004
Time: 12:35 PM -0500

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Hey all us sick and suffering alki's, Kelly here, a drunk in recovery... Doing good but got an awful case of Bronchitis! Being sick just ain't the same without Nyquil!!! Lol, yeah, I know only an alki would get that one!...wink. Hi ((Rebecca)), Welcome! Keep posting, your like a breath of fresh air. ((Hi Sheri))! Yes, the coffeepot is kind of a slice and dice at times! I did not post there in until a year sober and prefer it here. I am only supposed to post once a week here now that I have a year sober and I (TRY) and respect that rule. As Rebecca said so wisely on the pot (it aint all about me)'! In my determination to stay sober I worked a (selfish program), in that I mean I had to change everything about myself and put my sobriety ahead of everything else. I posted here a lot and it helped keep me sober. I tried to help others and that helped keep me sober. I still do because it works! ((Hey Ed)), nice to see ya back. Sounds like you are definately putting in the effort and you keep it up! You too, ((Dave jr))! ((Ann)), sorry to hear about your friend passing. I have not been to my first AA funeral yet but I know it is coming. My good friend in AA lost her brother Wednesday night and I will be attending that funeral to support her. He got drunk and passed out in his truck and was found frozen to death right in the front yard! She is taking it hard because he pushed her into recovery but was not ready himself. At 40 he thought he had a few drinking years left in him, that was not the case. This disease is a killer, cunning and baffling and powerful like the Big Book says. Why I'm still here is my question? My higher power wants to keep me around for some reason?....If not to just be an example of what not to do!!! Lol. Awww, at least I'm getting it finally... Love you all, have a safe and sober weekend, Kelly :)


Member: jimr
Location: chicago
Remote Name: 64.109.136.4
Date: January 24, 2004
Time: 12:43 PM -0500

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Good comments. The thirst for sobriety is what drives us. Knowing our old way of life wasn't working anymore. Some people surrender completely, for others it takes time. But we know this for fact. Out our weakness (when we finally know we're licked) comes an unshakable strength, a power that guides us to a new life. In the Big Book it refers to surrender as "the unflattering point of departure" I was one those who didn't get it right away (couldn't surrender), almost 17 years of pain and misery had to follow for me to get to the unflattering point of departure. I did exactly what I was finally "Told to do". Like davejr, I brought my body to meetings and the my mind eventually followed. I'm grateful for the Power that helped me find the corner pieces to the puzzle which is me, and to others who helped me fit more pieces together. The puzzle isn't complete though, it might never be complete, but I can finally see the real image of myself forming. This takes time and willingness. It's really cool to see the program working here. Kathyd identified with me and passed the message to Ed and Ed is going to meetings and is starting to absorb the experience strength and hope of this program. You guys bring a tear to eye, you are the real miracles of this program. To see someone grasp onto to a new way of life, knowing that you'll soon be helping others too is the real heart of what we do and how we stay sober. The coffee Pot isn't a true vehicle to help you recover. It's just a vehicle for sharing stuff, including es&h(experience, hope and strength.) There is good sobriety on that site, but there is also other stuff. Remember its not quantity sobriety, but quality sobriety. Not everyone you meet in AA is going to have what you want. Quite honestly, there is probably better sobriety on this site then there is on the coffee pot. If you guys are fed up with the old life and will go to any length to live happy, joyous and free, then keep going to meetings and get that sponsor that has "It" no matter how fearful you may be. If that person refuses to help, you'll know they aren't truly working the program. But don't get discouraged, there is always someone who will help you. You might be really suprised to find that the person who could help the most, might be your most unlikely prospect. Peace, Love, and Sobriety to you all.


Member: Greg M.
Location: Honey Brook Pa.
Remote Name: 151.197.42.27
Date: January 24, 2004
Time: 08:13 PM -0500

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Hi all. My name is Greg and I am an alcoholic. I will try to keep this short and sweeet. Having been away from the program for the last five years, last night I hit bottom. This after spending the entire month of june in jail for DUI, one would think that would be my bottom. Nope, not this drunk. Mine was an argument with my wife. One she didnt cause. The bottom line is this, I am out of controle, my life has become unmanagable. I am in the deepest despare I have ever been in. I know that I am not alone, but it sure feels like I am. Thanks for listening.


Member: Rebecca S
Location: W
Remote Name: 65.33.44.186
Date: January 24, 2004
Time: 08:56 PM -0500

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(((Greg))) Rebecca here, alcoholic. Welcome back...I hope you stay. Try to take it easy..especially on yourself...your sober right now, take it one minute or second at a time if nessesary.....hang in there..glad your here..You at least have done what appears to be a great start on step 1..Don't drink. Try to get to a Face 2 face meeting...tell them exactly what you just shared here and if you remember, there will be a lot of wonderful men there for you,ready to help in any way!!!!Thats why we are here....I'm glad you shared, thanks for keeping ME sober....ODAAT...Keep coming back...Still sober, Peace...Rebecca S.


Member: Rebecca S
Location: W
Remote Name: 65.33.44.186
Date: January 24, 2004
Time: 10:00 PM -0500

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Rebecca here, still alcoholic....((jimr)) hi and thank you for sharing. We (newcomers)need to be embraced by AA's with time. This side is a kinder, more gentle discussion...Thank you for your input!!!!


Member: Rebecca S
Location: W
Remote Name: 65.33.44.186
Date: January 24, 2004
Time: 10:11 PM -0500

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Rebecca here, alcoholic. I hope this is not a 3rd post, (damn that button I just hit and everything disappeared)???? ((jimr)) Thank you for your support. I tried a minute ago to say. Newcomers need to be embraced by those of you with some time!!! Thanks for being one that takes the time. I always read your posts, I always finish with at least one or two helpful thoughts or suggestions...Thank you, please continue to look over here when you have time.... (((Kelly))) Thank you for such a kind comment. I am truely flattered. Sometimes I feel like maybe I don't say or post anything interesting or useful, and at times wonder if it is even being read!!LOL...(poor little me!!!hahahaha)just joking, IT IS NOT ABOUT ME!!! It is about US...ALL....RECOVERING....Thank you my friend for the kind words, and also the helpful suggestion. Maybe this side is easier to post on.... Sometimes I really get a lot from the Pot...But, I don't find the desire to really post much over there....I hope the traffic will increase here. I am a single Mom, and after I put the boy's to bed, I like to come here for my program.....Thanks for keeping me sober, Peace, Rebecca!!!!