Member: Craig L (Dogmanor@yahoo.com)
Location: Aloha, Oregon
Date: 10/20/2002
Time: 9:09:15 AM

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Recently I had several things going on at once. In my drinking days I could only handle one thing at a time and finally I couldn't handle anything but my next drink. While this was going on I found myself creating all kinds of phantoms for the future. I could not see any way things were going to be OK. I wanted to act on the mis-information I had from my mind games. I wanted to know today how it was all going to work out. Thanks to the program of AA I practiced staying in the present and the payoff was that the results were to my benefit. This has happened before and everytime staying in the now was a challenge, but always paid off. Let's talk about Staying Present.


Member: Brandy G
Location: Toronto
Date: 10/20/2002
Time: 9:12:11 AM

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I'm new to this (5 days) and I have a hard time not thinking long-term....the rest of my life sober seems endless! I can't imagine a week let alone a lifetime. Anyone who can help, know I'll be listening. I made it through Fri & Sat night (with a lot of tears, but I made it). When does it get easier? A week, 2 weeks? Everyday is easier than the last? I don't think I can do this for much longer, so I need a general idea of how long I'll be tormenting myself (physically - mentally I know the rest of my life). I hope this makes sense.


Member: Mark W.
Location: St. Louis
Date: 10/20/2002
Time: 10:10:49 AM

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Craig, good topic for the week! Staying Present... I am still easy to confuse when many things are coming at once. The program of AA has taught me new ways to react to the influences that disrupt the flow of life. For that I am grateful. Many difficulties have ocurred since I sobered up that would have been excellent excuses to get drunk. That reaction is no longer a consideration today. Brandy, you don't mention it, but face to face meetings, and working the steps with a sponsor that has worked the steps, is the most usual way that alcoholics in AA get beyond the self torment. The torment never stopped for me prior to going to AA. As a result I could not stop drinking. After going, it has been years, and I do not miss the alcohol, and do have many someones to call in the event those thoughts begin to lead me back that way. It is my hope for you that you clear the hurdle that going to the first meeting often is for alcoholics. Mark W. LMW007@aol.com


Member: AZbill
Location: Sierra Vista, Arizona
Date: 10/20/2002
Time: 10:18:09 AM

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HI. Bill here. Alcoholic from Arizona. On my first anniversary, my sponsor handed me my coin and said. "Now, I want you to think about where you would like to be this time next year." After some thought I decided to go back to school. It is August and college started the following January. Each day I called him, he would ask the same question, "What did you do today to get yourself in college?". The answer was the same, "I just made the decision, Dick." :) After a while our phone conversation went like this.. "Have you picked a major? No; Will you take a minor? Don't know; Do you have a class schedule? Nope; How much is the tuition? Don't know. Are they going to accept you? Don't know. Then, What did you do to TODAY, to get yourself in college?". Ohhhh. Light bulb. I went on to college. Graduated a little late in life at age 55. Took two board examinations. Passed them both and went into my field of study. This was the first time in my life that I took on something from beginning to end without knowing the results. What I learned from this drill was that we do indeed plan ahead. What we do not do is plan the results. More recently.. Each year my online group has a Roundup the last weekend in October. I have had my airline ticket for about a week. Will I make the Roundup? I don't know. I will let you know when I get back. And to Brandy G in Toronto. My life Started to improve from the moment I sat down my last drink. Very slowly at first. Drop me a line if you wish. I am not unfamiliar with Canadian AA. I spoke at your Midland Roundup near Penatang once. Thank you all for being a part of my sobriety today. Bill email: az-bill@mindspring.com


Member: JaniceP
Location: Chicago
Date: 10/20/2002
Time: 11:11:57 AM

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What a great topic. I call this the "WHAT IF" syndrome. We have to rember that all we have is today...thanks to our Higher Power. I'm not saying that we shouldn't plan for the future, but I can't let the worries of the future consume me. I have to trust that God will take care of everything. Sometimes it's hard. I like to CONTROL everything, even things I can't control. When I start thinking like this, I say the Serenity Prayer. It really helps.


Member: Tami R
Location: NH
Date: 10/20/2002
Time: 11:16:48 AM

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I have had headaches for a week now. Its been 25 days sober and I never had headached like this before. I guess this is the true test. PMS and headaches at once! AARRGH. Well the booze was flying at a singing engagement I had last night and I didnt drink. That is reason to celebrate.


Member: Dan S
Location:
Date: 10/20/2002
Time: 11:56:46 AM

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Hi people! Went to a meeting last night, and the topic was "discipline." I thought "Uggh!" Well, it was a good meeting, and as I sat there, I thought, discipline is nothing more than waking up today and doing the right thing, whatever it may be, today. One day at a time. I was such a rebel, always going out of my way to do the wrong thing, I had this notion that I could never do the right thing, never be successful, because there I was in this alcoholic stupor, and I didn't know how to step into a successful life. I didn't get there in one fell swoop, I did it one day at a time, waking up each day and doing the things that I need to do, whatever it was for that day. Each day for the first eight years it was waking up in a jail cell, doing what I had to in there to work a program. When I was released eight years later, the things I was doing each day were far different than the things I had been before. One day at a time I did the right thing. The next right thing, one thing at a time, and now I have a decent life. That's the type of discipline for me. I don't have to be a US Marine to have it. I just have to stay sober today! One day at a time. yruymi2@yahoo.com -Dan from Pennsylvania, USA (text box for geo. loca. not working)


Member: Linda G.
Location: Toronto
Date: 10/20/2002
Time: 12:45:31 PM

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First off, I apologize for my choice of handle - I've always been Brandysnap on the 'net and just unthinkingly went with it when I posted here. I'm changing it to Linda G. just so it's not in bad taste. Believe me when I say it really was an unconscious handle - I guess history does catch up to you. Secondly, Tami, I also have suffered from headaches in my last 5 sober days. One thing I can say is that at least I know they aren't hangovers. I think they're rooted in stress and worry (worry I won't make it, stress of seeing life clearly). Anyway, know you're not alone in that, and remember what everyone else says - they will pass aswell. Now if I could just sleep at night, that might help too! Still sober though, 5 days and counting!


Member: Linda G.
Location: Toronto
Date: 10/20/2002
Time: 12:48:21 PM

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I wanted to apologize for my choice of handle in my previous post (Brandy) - as I said in the discussion room, I've always been Brandysnap on the 'net and just went with that handle, unthinkingly. I am changing to Linda G. just so I'm not offending anyone - it really was an unconscious act, and I don't want to rub any one the wrong way. SORRY!


Member: Terry J.
Location: Kansas
Date: 10/20/2002
Time: 1:19:18 PM

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Hi everybody! I've never done an online meeting before, but since this last Grapevine, I've gotten curious. I appreciate the topic about staying present. Something I could never do. I went in and out for over 17 years and never caught the concept of one day at a time. TOO SIMPLE!! Becoming overwelmed on a daily basis was my blast off point and can be today if I don't keep my thinking in today. I agree we can plan, and have to sometimes, but the results, well...they can be something else. Hang in there Linda, Tammy, and Brandy. Maybe try to get some face to face AA where you are and ask about sponsorship perhaps. I know I owe a lot to mine for my ability to stay in the present and get through the little moments. (those are the ones that make me nuts!)


Member: Shauna S.
Location: Maryland
Date: 10/20/2002
Time: 3:22:45 PM

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Hello I'm Shauna and I'm an alcoholic. I have never been to an online meeting but I do attend several face to face meetings a week. I don't know if I can stay on the topic of staying present,but I can say this: All I have is today. Today my life is much better than it was when I was drinking. Everyday I can find one more thing to be thankful for. Like today I am thankful that I found a way to get to a meeting even though I can't leave my house. To you very new newcomers go to face to face meetings and get yourself a sponsor. When I decided that I really wanted to get sober the best thing I did was get a sponsor. But you have taken the first steps to a better life. I congradulate you and wish you the best. Thanks to everyone for sharing.


Member: Jay L.
Location: Arizona
Date: 10/20/2002
Time: 5:21:28 PM

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Staying in the present is of course, a very tough concept for me to apply on a consistent basis. With the goals and deadlines that I face regularly, keeping the focus on today's work is often difficult because of my propensity to look ahead and fear the worst. I faithfully find that when I attend meetings daily and stay close to my program, life on a daily basis is so much easier to live. Staying close to AA helps greatly to keep me focused in the present and not worry about tomorrow.


Member: ValerieM
Location: Canada
Date: 10/20/2002
Time: 8:11:57 PM

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Thank you for a good topic Craig - and welcome to Linda and Tami. This site has been a great help to me and I'm sure it will to you, too. Keep coming back... Staying in the present can be a real challenge for me, but I am getting better at it. I guess I'm realizing that RIGHT NOW is really all we have - this very moment. I've lost so many wonderful present moments being preoccupied with the past or worrying about the future. I really feel good when I can appreciate where I am and actually be here mentally not just physically! It does get easier the more I work at it. I hope everyone has a "wunnerful" week! Take care.


Member: Chris T
Location: San Diego
Date: 10/20/2002
Time: 10:02:06 PM

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Hi my name is Chris and I am an alcoholic. The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking. When your new you need to know that it is easy to be a prt of AA. When I first started going to meetings (a requirement not a choice) a member made me feel welcome, and told me to just listen and do the next indicated step. Go to meetings, get a sponser and read theBig Book. My ideas of how to live really didn't work, so I thought I'd try the suggestions of others who had what I wanted, sobriety. The real trick is that if I stay busy with all of these other things I have to stay present. What a great gift I have received, living life the way God had intended for me.


Member: KIMBERLEY S.
Location: WASHINGTON
Date: 10/20/2002
Time: 11:02:22 PM

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Hi kimberley here recovering alcholic. i use to here this statement alot in meetings, yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, the gift is in the present unwrap it today, one day at a time, i say talk talk and talk, listen and isten practice the principles of the program and DO NOT BE DISCOURAGED


Member: christy m
Location: N.C.
Date: 10/20/2002
Time: 11:17:43 PM

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Today is my first day and I always feel like the present is never good enough. Today seems like no big deal. Its tomorrow I'm worried about... so worried that sometimes I dread another day because I may drink. How to get the opposite feeling? Tomorrow I won't drink. That would be sooooo great.


Member: Jennifer G
Location: SC
Date: 10/20/2002
Time: 11:41:20 PM

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Hello, my name is Jennifer and I'm an alcoholic.I've never been to an online meeting before, but I do attend the ones in my town everyday.I have about 80 days and my sponsor says to attend 90 meetings in 90 days.I went to church this morning and stayed after for practice in a musical I am in.I did work in my Big Book and 12 & 12.So I guess I'm staying in the present and handling things one day at a time as they come. But, the problem came tonight when I realized who the speaker was at our meeting tonight. This person cannot complete a sentence without the use of foul language. I did not feel I would benefit from an hour of that kind of talk , even if he has been sober quite a few years. So I asked my sponsor about it and she agreed that I had a point, although it is not suggested for me to miss a meeting. To make a long story short, I decided to try this online meeting. I'm glad I did, I feel I have learned from hearing about others' experiences and hope. Thank you all for sharing and thanks for letting me share. Y'all have a great week. God bless.


Member: barbara B
Location: Roundup MT.
Date: 10/21/2002
Time: 12:19:56 AM

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Barb here,it's been 16 days since i consumed alcohol.I dont know if i'm a typical alcoholic.I dont drink all the time,sometimes i go for a few weeks without a drink.my problem is stopping after that first or second drink.sometimes i can stop,but then theres the times that i cant remember half the night,and times when i get violent.i've decided to stop drinking,i geuss thats what i'm doing in the present.i've read the first four chapters in the big book.i haven't attended any AA meetings.this is my first online meeting,and i plan to attend more of these.Thank you all for listening to my story,and i wish all of you the best of luck.


Member: bob f.
Location: wisconsin
Date: 10/21/2002
Time: 6:49:37 AM

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Bob F. Wisconsin Way to go Barbra. 16 days is good. seventeen will follow. The program unfolds a little bit at a time as needed. Keep learning. The difference between us and others is sometimes 'they' drink too much. Our to much is the first drink. There is much wisdom in our nor taking the first drink rather than trying to stop after we have started. From tje bottom of my heart good luck.


Member: Tami R
Location: NH
Date: 10/21/2002
Time: 7:06:46 AM

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I am happy that the headaches arent hangovers. That is for sure!! I wish they'd stop. One thing I was use to in my drinking days was taking aspirins alot and I'm trying not to. Hope all are well today. Tami


Member: Linda G
Location: Toronto
Date: 10/21/2002
Time: 8:27:50 AM

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Hi all, day 6 stretching in front of me. For the first time, I actually feel like it won't be a problem - maybe because I made it thru the weekend, and work-days are just that much easier. More to do with the kids, more to do with the household.... I don't know, I just know it feels easier somehow. Tami, I still wake up each morning with a headache. I'm hoping it'll pass. You know, ironically, I never suffered "too much" (it's a relative thing) from hangover-headaches - I seem to have more now I'm sober! I'm sure they'll pass though. Barbara B - I am like you in a lot of ways - it wasn't often I went without drinking, but 98% of the time I could have one or two and stop -maybe because those were work days rather than weekends. Weekends though, no matter what I tried, I ended up with a HUGE blank space, a husband mad at me, and children who probably didn't need to see their mother such a mess. So far, so good....Day 6 is today. I wish you luck - maybe we can both make this work! Thanks to everyone for the support!


Member: Bill P.
Location: Michigan
Date: 10/21/2002
Time: 9:08:44 AM

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Bill P. here, flaming alcoholic. Linda G. - Thanks for sharing. I'm 160 days sober and I can tell you that all of this is worth it. It keeps getting better, one day at a time. It's huge that you got through the weekend without drinking. I relate well to your story about the weekends. I used to turn up the notch on drinking big time on the weekends. The result was the same as yours, angry wife, kids with hurt feelings, and a lot of wasted time (that should have been quality time with the family). I'm glad you're here and keep coming back. AA is a gift from God, and the "WE" of this program has saved me from drinking many times already. In five short months, I like who I am and I don't ever want to go back to the way I was before. Peace to all of "US" and God Bless.


Member: Beth H.
Location: Turtle Island
Date: 10/21/2002
Time: 9:36:35 AM

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Morning all! I'm the Queen of anticipatory anxiety! I have a few things I try to keep in mind when I start suffering from those What-Ifs. One is to remember that NOW is the only thing that's real. As it says in my beginners' pamphlet - yesterday is gone, tomorrow doesn't exist yet. The present is all we have to deal with. Something else that helps me when I'm fretting about what'll happen in the next weekend, month, year, whatever, is to remember that the time will pass whether I'm drunk, sober, anxious, afraid...I may as well take a deep breath and relax, because life will continue to happen anyway. It's quite a relief to let go of the worry - I can expend a lot of energy doing it! And one of my major stumbling blocks in recovery has been imagining an alcohol-free Christmas, the next wedding, etc. Not having to think about those occasions, and just think about today is a huge weight off my shoulders. I'm still learning to LET GO, and this discussion topic has been a good way to start my day. Thank you!


Member: Jack H.
Location: Orlando
Date: 10/21/2002
Time: 9:45:08 AM

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Hi Everyone, My name is Jack and I'll always be an alcoholic. I go to face to face meetings and to places like this because I fouled up the past and I'm a bit afraid of the future. By concentrating on the next right thing, I've found life is pretty easy today. To all newcomers, Keep coming back till the miracle happens. ((Linda G.)) six days is SUPER -- now go for seven! One night in April 1980, my sponsor asked me to promise him that "No matter what happens -- No matter how badly I want to -- Wait until tomorrow before I pick up a drink to be REALLY sure I want to". At that time I had only 5 days sober. EVERY SINGLE DAY, SINCE THAT NIGHT, HAS BEEN A TODAY. THANK GOD TOMORROW HASN'T BEEN A PROBLEM FOR A LONG TIME NOW. Peace, love, and sobriety. Jack


Member: Bill P.
Location: Michigan
Date: 10/21/2002
Time: 10:05:33 AM

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Thanks for being here Jack. I've been reading your comments since day one and you have given me reassurance and hope. Have another great sober day,ODAAT. Peace.


Member: Joan M.
Location: NC
Date: 10/21/2002
Time: 10:29:19 AM

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Hi Everybody. I'm Joan and I'm an alcoholic. This is my first online meeting and I'm so glad I found you all. I'm 10 years sober but I haven't been to a meeting in a while. I think (well I know) I have become a workaholic in place of an alcoholic. This is a great meeting. Dan S. - thanks for sharing. You put things into perspective for me when you spoke about a jail cell. And you stayed sober through it all. I tend to make a cell of my own mind when I really have so much to be grateful for. Brandy - the headaches will get better. I had them terribly for several years after getting sober. They were tension. I still get them when I don't take care of myself or when I put up with people or things that are really not good for me. Try and notice when you tense up and remove yourself from those situations. Listen to what your sober pain is trying to tell you. Congratulations on starting the program. I still remember vividly those first few days - the shaking hands, the fear and FEELING EVERYTHING in living color. What a challenge. It does get lots better with time. Barbara - I too got close to violence when I drank. One of the most frightening things in life is facing your inner anger and learning to deal with it. I would stuff it and be a good girl all day and then turn into a nightmare of anger after a pint of whiskey. I'd actually get up in the morning and check to see if all the family was ok because I'd wake up feeling like something was wrong but not remember what I did. Today I have a great relationship with my daughter. I thank my higher power that I found AA when I did. Thanks everybody for listening.


Member: Joe P
Location: Chicago
Date: 10/21/2002
Time: 11:46:57 AM

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My name is Joe, and I am an alcoholic. Regular contact with other recovering alcoholics in f2f and by telephone really helps me stay in the present. Others can spot when I am living in the past or future at times when I am unable or unwilling, and they are always kind enough to point it out to me. I also really like the Serenity Prayer. When life hands me a lot to do, like it has recently, I try to remember, “Plan plans, not results”. I focus on the specific actions that I can take today. At times those do involve the future, as Bill from AZ wrote. Once the actions are taken, the results will be what they are – it the results that I turn over to God. Thanks for all the shares.


Member: Gage
Location: LA
Date: 10/21/2002
Time: 1:03:06 PM

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I'm Gage and I'm an alcoholic. I believe that I have, or am at least in the process of, undergoing a change in psyche. My natural way of thinking about life and the world has always been to complicate things. My thinking always ran to the negative end of the scale, and I was afraid of everything. And I mean everything. I think this is changing. My new way of thinking has come about as a result of something that I found in the twelve steps that I'm amazed by and absolutely convinced is real, even if it is something that I find hard to describe. It is a presence that I have come to believe has the power to take any situation, any conflict, any seemingly hopeless set of circumstances, and not only provide a solution to these problems but make of them something wonderful and beautiful. The first hint I got of this change is when I caught myself laughing at myself. Someone taught me a very simple meditation to help me face my day just as it has been given to me and to help bring this new way of thinking and living into play each morning. It goes like this: "Yes."


Member: Greg N
Location: MI
Date: 10/21/2002
Time: 2:35:41 PM

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Good topic...I've had a few years of sobriety now and through it all I've found that keeping in the present is the key to survivng this disease that we share. None of us are strong enough to get outside of our addiction which is a constant, immediate problem. Lets just keep it in the present, worry about getting through today without a drink, and address tomorrow when we wake up, sober, tomorrow a.m. Thanks!


Member: Mandy R.
Location: rutherfordton, nc
Date: 10/21/2002
Time: 4:07:33 PM

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My name is Mandy and I am an alcoholic. Tonight at twelve (the 21st of October) marks my first full week of sobriety. I read earlier how someone is worried about tomorrow because he or she may drink. I have the same fear. Because I am early on in the program, I have had the past seven days to reflect on all the junk I have done in the past 13 years of drinking. I recently turned 30 and now all I do is think about the past and the future. One of the consequences of drinking is that you may lose your job. I spent a year trying to get my graduate degree in education so I could finally teach high school English and when I did, it took only eight months to throw it all away because of drinking and depression. Now I have no teaching lisence,no driver's lisence, nor a future it seems like, and that it is very depressing. For a recovering alcoholic, or at least an early recovering alcoholic, it seems the present is the hardest place to be and remain. I make my meetings, but I can't shake the shame of the past and the fear of the future... Thanks for letting me type...


Member: Shona M
Location: London
Date: 10/21/2002
Time: 5:15:09 PM

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Hi my names Shona and I am an alcoholic yesterday was my 2nd birthday. This is nmy first online meeting and I am so grateful to be hear. Staying in the present and trying to do the next right thing is important in my recovery.When I start the Shona planning it all goes pearshaped, I am learning slowly for the first time in my life about how I should live life with the help of my hp aa and sponsor.


Member: Art M
Location: PA
Date: 10/21/2002
Time: 5:22:12 PM

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Hi, I'm Art and I'm an alcoholic. I once talkd to a guy after a meeting for about 2-3 hours in a parking lot (you know;carrying the mesage). He had 3 days without a drink. After he cried his eyes out and soaked himself in his own self-pitty for most of the 2-3 hours he said thanks, and went accross the street and walked straight into a bar! I quess he wasn't ready yet! It's been some time since I put down the last drink, but that incident (as well as many others) serves to remind me that I could of done the same thing---many,many times. I can even do it today if I wish to, but I don't see it as an option today. I now have the "desire" to stay sober strong enough to follow the suggestions of the AA program. In fact, I had to follow the simple suggestions of the program because all other ways had failed. I felt hopeless, helpless and physically-very,very sick! The good news is that the physical problems do get better. How? All I did was NOT DRINK and go to meetings once or even twice a day until I did feel better. Then, when I felt better, I still did not drink and went to meetings. Now, at least physically, I feel much better. Good Luck to you all. Just keep coming!


Member: Caron F
Location: London
Date: 10/21/2002
Time: 6:23:56 PM

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Hi, I'm Caron and I'm an alcoholic. I have been 84 days without a drink and each day keeps getting better a day at a time. This is my first online meeting. It is so good to know that there is somewhere I can go at any time of the day or night and be truly understood.


Member: Ray R.
Location: Michigan
Date: 10/21/2002
Time: 6:47:01 PM

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Hi, I'm Ray and I'm an alcoholic. I had 10 years of sobriety and all of the advantages that come with it. Now, a beautiful wife, house and 2 wonderful kids later, I fell off the wagon. I now have 1 day of sobriety. Its good to be back.


Member: J-Rae
Location: N.D.
Date: 10/21/2002
Time: 8:28:35 PM

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Staying in the Present....Great Topic. My experience has been that if I have one foot in today, and the other in tomorrow, I poop all over today. One day at a time, that motto, has kept me in the present (gift) of today. If I just don't drink TODAY, today, I won't get drunk. If I don't pick up that 1st drink, I can't get drunk. The program of Alcoholics Anonymous has given me the tools to live that "One Day at a Time". Newcomers....Welcome. This is a great site to be at. Keep Coming Back. Go to meetings on a regular basis (90 meetings in 90 days has been suggested and has worked for many). Get a sponsor. Read the Big Book. And share your experience strength (you WILL acquire strength with time) and hope with others. You can't wear the serenity prayer out (I tried, can't be done), that simple prayer has helped me so many times. I know that when I worry about the past, and the future, fear grows. I can live life on life's terms TODAY, and tomorrow will take care of itself. Thanks for letting me share. ~J-Rae


Member: Doug K
Location: Brilliant colors in the orchards of W. Mich.
Date: 10/21/2002
Time: 9:21:20 PM

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Hi everyone, my name is Doug...I'm an alcoholic. Afew months ago in the Grapevine was this little gem...Called "the nine words to live by": The worst things I've ever lived through ...never happened. A friend, Jerry W. travelled from Michigan to LA and half-way back home just so he could teach me that one day at a time was an emotional thing. Emotionally I need to stay in the present....plan the plan not the outcome. The past is gods', he can have it. The future is coming no matter what I do...but I think if I do the "next right thing", then when the future becomes the now, things will be better...most of the time.


Member: Paul W
Location: Midland, MI
Date: 10/21/2002
Time: 10:04:08 PM

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Great topic Craig! I think for me, it's been the single most stumbling block...failure to live the present. I gotta say, there isn't anything more profound that hasn't been said here. I'm hearing some great sobriety! When I 1st came in the doors, I heard things like: "90 in 90, ODAT, Let go Let God, Serenity prayer & Keep comin' back, don't drink & go to meetings"... I was so sick and full of hurt I would have stood on my head in the corner if that was a suggested step. I never forgot the words "If you are willing to go to any lengths to get what we have" That was 19 yrs ago since I first heard these things and since my last drink. It DOES get better and better and better. DON'T DRINK AND GO TO MEETINGS! To all, thanks for the comments, and for listening. Jack H - Your location brought back some great memories, I sobered up at the Central group Orlando...Thanks! knowclue56@excite.com (yahoo chat: knowclue56)


Member: Anita C.
Location: MN
Date: 10/21/2002
Time: 10:34:03 PM

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Hi, my name is Anita and I am an alcoholic. This is a great topic. I just got off the phone with my sponsor & her suggestion to me was to not change jobs or start school again until after January. I was getting way ahead of myself, lost in plans and losing perspective. I need to get back to basics & back to one day at a time. Brandy, when I first stopped drinking I couldn't imagine the rest of my life without alcohol. But I could imagine not drinking for just that day. So I pretended that I could drink, maybe, someday. But just not that day. And I said that to myself everyday. Now the "just that day" has turned into almost two years. I really feel like that has been the true meaning of one day at time for me. So, best wishes, early sobriety is tough but it will get better and YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!! Peace & sobriety wishes to all.


Member: Dennis H.
Location: Austin, TX
Date: 10/21/2002
Time: 11:16:32 PM

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Hi, my name is Dennis and I'm an alcholic. My sobriety date is 3/28/98. To the newcomers;you'll be as sober as you are going to get in 2 weeks. This program of AA shows us how to live in sobriety, not how to "not drink". The headaches will subside, drink plenty of water, you are dehydrated. The use of sweets will help you through the shakey times. Pick up the book "Living Sober" at your local intergroup, it has many helpful insights for the new(and old)recovering alcoholics. Living in the moment comes with practice. As I work the steps, #3 tells me to make a decision to turn my will and life over to the care of my Higher Power. If I am doing this step to the best of my abilities, I am no longer in charge of the world. God will provide! This program works , but we need to work it at all times. This means action, as outlined in the Big Book. Need help finding the directions? Thats what sponsers are for...


Member: Robert T.
Location: Beaverton, Oregon
Date: 10/22/2002
Time: 12:39:28 AM

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Hi I'm Robert and I am an alcoholic, Staying in the present is hard for me to accept sometimes. I am constantly trying to manipulate the future with my insights. I always worry about things today that might happen in the future. It is sort of like I am the cart and trying to beat the horse ahead of me. Not knowing what happens tomorrow is sort of a challenge. I do know for a fact that it is easier to truly take one day at a time. I pray once in the morning and once at night; not the whole weeks worth in one day. Its nice to share here once a week. It makes me feel a part of.


Member: Aggi P.
Location: Vernon, B.C.
Date: 10/22/2002
Time: 12:55:53 AM

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Hi. Im an alcoholic. Sober 22 years only because God loves me and has a sense of humour. I just tried doing this once already and made a mess. Oh well. Im happy, sober and now the proud owner of my own pc and internet. This is my first online experience. i feel like a newcomer. thanx for being here.


Member: AnilG
Location: MtVernon,IL
Date: 10/22/2002
Time: 10:07:49 AM

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I am an alcoholic staying present is a nice topic I have very painful memories of the past that brought me where i am today at a brink of total self distruction now I was given another chance and I decided to make use of it by taking day at time and focus on today and present. what is gods will how can i follow my steps make ammeds fucus on steps 4 and thanks to aa and alanon,


Member: MaureenP
Location: TUCSON, AZ
Date: 10/22/2002
Time: 12:11:54 PM

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Hello my name is Maureen and I am a grateful recovering alcoholic. A work in progress, each day sometimes each hour at a time, I continue to learn and grow in sobriety. I especially like this subject of living in the now because now is all I can deal with. When I was first sober I wanted to feel better now and have ten years of sobriety in ten days. What I learned to focus on was how each step I took forward without alcohol was growth and after 27 years of sobriety it is still true. I recently lost my husband of 26 years and have had to take baby steps forward without him, AA showed me how to live one day at a time, it is all this alcoholic can handle.


Member: Shona M
Location: London
Date: 10/22/2002
Time: 4:41:25 PM

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Hi my names Shona and I'm an alcoholic I am living in England but originally from Scotland and it is lovely to hear such inspired sharing and so many people in their early days. Staying in the present for me means planning my day, trying to do the next right thing and then leaving the outcome to hp, it's not always easy and I don't always succeed but when I do my head is ok and I feel contented and safe.2 years later I think the best advice I got in the early months was to fake it till I could make it and to practice my new behaviour, I needed simple instructions because I have a tendency to complicate everything,and my fear is kept at bay when I keep everything in the day.Keep safe and sober.


Member: Kelly M
Location: New Hampshire
Date: 10/22/2002
Time: 6:37:33 PM

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Hi All, It is my second time back here and now with 22 days under my belt I'm feeling much better about my sobriety. In the first few days I wondered if I could do it for a week, now the goal is a month. I attend one to two AA meetings a day and my goal is to make my 90/90. I am also trying to find a sponsor and have a few women with good sobriety to choose from. Calling a sponsor will be another test for me because I do not want to "bother" anyone. That is just my own "stinkin thinking" I need to get rid of. As for staying in the present, I am one day at a time. I was so out of reality when I drank every day. Nothing got done, I isolated from life, people and responsibility for my actions no matter how I hurt those around me. Now I'm living life on lifes terms. I have problems, my car needs work, I wish I had more money, etc. It is nothing I can't handle sober. One day at a time and things will happen... I can't say enough good about AA. I have met so many friends in the program and socializing feels good! Anyone new just keep going to meetings and it will get easier. Kelly


Member: FC
Location: CA
Date: 10/22/2002
Time: 9:49:08 PM

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Hey to all, (((Kelly M.))) I justed started AA about 20 days ago, but can honestly say I'm only 5 days sober, go figure! I have a sponser and if it were'nt for her, I don't think I would even have the five days. I also did'nt want to bother anyone, but if I'm struggling for the day, she gets me out of my "Stinkin Thinkin", I can't do it myself, The program of AA is "WE" program, people in AA know what we are going thru, thats why its not a bother, just a helping hand getting us out of ourselves. My sponser gets me active in my meetings, to make me feel more part of the program. Believe me, I could'nt do it for myself. So one thing at a time. Pick a sponser and life will get easier for you. They know how to get you to the next level. Anyways all, Have a good night and don't drink!!!!


Member: Marv L.
Location: Laurel,Ms
Date: 10/22/2002
Time: 10:25:09 PM

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Hi,Im Marv,alcoholic,sober TODAY by the grace of a HP,the fellowship of AA,and by working the 12 step recovery program. When I found a way out of active alcoholism at age 48,it made sense to go it one day at a time,and today,pushing 70, Ive come to see my past is like a cancelled check,my "tomorrow" is like a "promissory note"so living in the PRESENT,one day at a time,is where I belong;thanks,for refocusing this in my mind,and for the subject.Love you all !


Member: Chopper - o
Location: Australia
Date: 10/22/2002
Time: 10:34:51 PM

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DAILY – REFLECTIONS – OTOBER 23RD – 2002 WHAT WE KNOW BEST “ Shoemaker, stick to thy last” . . . better do one thing supremely well than many badly. That is the central theme of this Tradition {Five}. Around it our Society gathers in unity. The very life of our Fellowship requires the preservation of this principle. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS. P. 150 The survival of A.A. depends upon unity. What would happen if a group decided to became an employment agency, a treatment center or a social service agency? Too much specialization, to frittering of efforts and, finally, to decline. I have the qualifications to share my sufferings and my way of recovery with the newcomer. Conformity to A.A.’s primary purpose insures the safety of the wonderful gift of sobriety, so my responsibility is enormous. The life of millions of alcoholics is closely tied to my competence in “carrying the message to the still – suffering alcoholic.” Oo – roo chopper


Member: JimB.
Location: RMI
Date: 10/22/2002
Time: 11:44:27 PM

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JimB., happy to know I'm alcoholic and grateful to be sober today. I think for me what we are talking about with this topic of staying in the moment is humility. Trying to cultivate the quality of being humble. It's about staying right sized not proud, arrogant or assertive. When I am able to do this I am open to suggestion that might be helpful and I am not trying to push my agenda to get others to see things the way I do. Since this quality is indusive to serenity I can more readily hear and act on that "still small voice within" for guidance. In a more healthy way I am detached from the situation so that it does not become yet another all or nothing proposition. I realize today I do not have all of the answers and never will have but I am given tools in AA to work towards a solution to all of the problems that life sends my way. It is in the spirit of humility that I can face making a mistake and not have to strive to be right all the time. Also since I am not all wraped up in ego and trying to impress someone I can more readily change my approach or try a differant solution if I fall short the first time. "To thine own self be true." Thanks for 12 steppin me!


Member: Collin D.
Location: nj
Date: 10/23/2002
Time: 1:46:51 AM

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Hi all, Collin D., alcoholic of the Hopeless variety. Barbara B. that sounds like alcoholism to me. Your in the right place but go to f2f meetings too please. It saves my life everyday. Staying in the present is easy if I just remember that yesterday is gone and tommorrow doesn't exist till it gets here. Gage, I tried that ''yes'' meditation this morning along with my other stuff (3rd Step prayer; 7 STep prayer and Daily reflection.). It made a good day not to drink. I'll keep that one in mind. Yes! one day at a time.


Member: Ray C
Location: Haines Alaska
Date: 10/23/2002
Time: 2:48:00 AM

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Hi...Ray C an alkie,living in the present,one day at a time or however you want to phrase it is a damn good topic for me today.I heard alot of good advice and this being one of thoses days where it might be a good idea to just listen and hear,I just want to say thanks for posting and keep coming back it works if you work it.


Member: Mary B
Location: Las Vegas,NV.
Date: 10/23/2002
Time: 6:43:36 AM

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Hi; my name is Mary i am an alcoholic, Ihave a little over 2 yrs of soberity is it "normal" to some times have mixed emotions after doing a thoural 4th step and 9th step? thank you, Mary B.


Member: chris f.
Location: indialantic,fl.
Date: 10/23/2002
Time: 12:49:44 PM

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Hi! My name is Chris and I'm a recovering alcoholic and drug addict. Staying in the present moment for me has been the most difficult thing for me to process since I stepped in these rooms eight years ago. Since then, I've been cited for a D.U.I., I've put a car in a retention pond while drinking, and have been arrested a number of times. Not coincidentally, all of these arrests have come as the direct result of my drinking and drug use. God only knows how many times more I should have been "detained". The point is, that today I have found a better way to live. Whether it's an online meeting, a face to facer, or learning something new. I am taking guitar lessons for the first time today, and I am looking forward to something for the first time in a long time. Everyone, just keep doing the next right thing no matter how anxious it makes you feel. The sun always rises the next morning, and as recovering people we must learn how to address it with a smile on our face eventually. Just remember that we are worth it. The good is too often the enemy of the best. Let's keep that in mind. With that, I'll shut up and let someone else type. Peace to you all. 'Chris F.


Member: John B
Location: KY
Date: 10/23/2002
Time: 2:53:37 PM

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Hi, John alcoholic. Celebrating 17 years sober today. I'm so very grateful to have found AA. I cannot imagine my life without our beautiful program, the meetings and our steps. AA has introduced me to God - who I suspect I was looking for all the time when drinking. Since I've been sober I have been able to finish school, marry and have two beautiful children, have a good job and peace of mind and self-respect. I never felt like I was enough and even recently asked someone "what do I have to do or accomplish to be enough?" The answer was "You are asking the wrong question. You need to ask What do you have to do to realize you are already enough and have always been enough in God's eyes." I am enough just as I am in this day, in this moment. Right where I need to be. God bless.


Member: Kellie R.
Location: Arizona
Date: 10/23/2002
Time: 3:20:57 PM

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Hi my name is Kellie and I AM AN ALCOHOLIC...This is my first online meeting and I am grateful for it, as we just moved to an area with limited meetings, the town I lived in before had over 100 a week. I have been trying to get sober for over three years and am just coming out of yet another relapse, this one worse than the others, just like they say in the big book. I want to get over the friggin' hump and quit doing all this field research, I am one of those hardcore drinkers and should have no problem seeing where my alcholic adventures have taken me no where but to a living hell. Mandy R. in R,NC...girl hang in there it will get better, I too have lost just about everything through my addiction to alcohol.Most recently I sent my son to live with his father so that I can concentrate on me and getting well and changing 30 yrs. of coping with problems with alcohol into something healthier for myself and my family. I just plain do not know how to live life without being medicated. I am scared of feeling my feelings since I do not even know what they feel like. I just have to remember to connect to my higher power each and every day, all through the day, otherwise I am off on a journey into old thoughts and patterns. Love and light to all, thank you for being here. Kellie


Member: Selena P.
Location: Sask, Canada
Date: 10/23/2002
Time: 5:30:03 PM

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Hi everyone my name is selena and I'm an alcoholic. I want to say congrats to John on his acomplishment.this on line thing is new to me, but I think that it is great. Here in my town there is only two meetings a week. So sometimes it is good to find other ways to get my fix of meetings.This is a great topic. when I first sobered up they told me "one day at a time" I had no idea what that meant.they also told me get a sponsor,read the big book and go to a meeting a day for ninety days. Of course I thought they were nuts. But the one thing I could not grasp was one day at a time. because of this and not being able to let go of things I relapsed.Luckely though I found the doors still open 6 months later. I had lost everything, was broke financialy, emotionaly, spiritually and pregnant. I walked in that room shaking and crying not knowing what to do. those people took me by the hand,loved me when I could not love myself, and showed me what I had to do to stay alive. I had to learn fast because I didnt have the time to procrastonate. I had to let my past go, find a higher power (whom I call God), and start living one day at a time. I have to stay in today because yesturday is full of coulda, woulda, shouldas and tomorrow is full of what ifs. I know for me thats a place to drink about. And for me that means death. Today I am proud to be a #*$*ing drunk. It means that I get to learn a new way to live, enjoy life, have a personal relationship with God and best of all share my experience, strength, and hope with other alcoholics. My life by no means is perfect. Its kinda like a country song played backwords I got my husband , the kids ,the dogs back these were bonuses. (and best of all my sense of humor) So when all else fails and life gets too busy just think of what it would be like if you were drunk. and also that this is a we program what I cant do we can, even just for today. With that Id like to wish every one another 24 hours and Ill take one for myself. LOL Selena P.


Member: Tim Crawford
Location: Missouri
Date: 10/25/2002
Time: 2:23:24 AM

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Hi, my name is Tim and I'm a alcoholic,Drug attic and I'm 18 I justgot out of treatment and i rehlapsed the first day out and i don't know why i had 21 days sober feeling really good about myself and then bam as soon as i hit the streets it was a hole diffrent story i and i can't figureit out i want to stay sober does anyone have any advice


Member: Dave B.
Location: Cleve. OH.
Date: 10/25/2002
Time: 4:57:53 AM

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Dave, Alcoholic. I guess this is a good topic for me since it is almost 5:00 AM and I'm up all night "thinking". Almost 9 years sober and still struggle from time to time with this. It is important for me to remember that the first three steps help me to stay in today. 1.) admit I'm powerless over the alcohol, (and the future). 2.) continue to beleive that God can restore me to sanity.(plan the plan not the results) 3.) Turn my life and will over to God.(trust and faith). In other words, 1.) I can't 2.) He can. 3.) I think I'll let Him. I also can't put too much emphasis on time in the program. All we have is today. There are some that I wouldn't give a plugged nickle for all their years of "sodriety". Still restless, irritable, and discontent. I also must consider the "miracle of sobriety", thinking my way through the drink. If I have one problem and take a drink, for sure I'll have at least two problems tommaro. Don't quit until the miricle happens. Don't keep comming back.....STAY!! God Bless all...and Thank you. I'll try to go back to sleep now.


Member: Duncan F
Location: England
Date: 10/25/2002
Time: 11:40:12 AM

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Hi I'm Duncan - An Alcoholic and thankfully 11 years sober. When I first heard the recommendation to live one day at a time I tried to bully myself into not thinking about the future or the past at all, which of course was as painful as it was impossible. Then someone reminded me to me of the slogans "Easy Does It" and "Let Go And Let God" - these have worked for me so many times I can't express how grateful I am for the strength and wisdom in the fellowship. x


Member: Kelly M
Location: New Hampshire
Date: 10/25/2002
Time: 11:40:37 AM

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Hi Tim C., Relapse is discouraging but at least you are asking for help, that is a start. Some never come back as I have seen. I relapsed after 6 months in AA and it took me 6 years to come back. We are all different in what it takes to hit bottom or if we make it back alive at all. Being in rehab is being locked away from alcohol and drugs for a period of time or in my case to get through the DT's. Once out you need structure, a sponsor and the desire to get better. Old friends that still use and old stomping grounds are to be avoided. I go to a lot of meetings and hang with the winner's with longterm sobriety and wisdom. Dave B. above is a good example of wisdom he has gleaned from AA. Read his explanation of the first 3 steps and spend a little time on those every day. That could be your base to build on. "Meeting makers make it", so try to hit at least a meeting a day or more to get the support you need. I carry a meeting list with me everywhere so if I have a hard time I can go to a meeting and talk to someone rather than pick up a drink. Oh, also like Dave said, don't listen to people suffering from "sodriety"...too funny! They may have long term sobriety but are easy to spot at meetings. They pick other peoples stories apart and know everything, just ask them they will tell you. They usually have not worked the 12 steps all the way through. Go for the people with the halo's over their heads. They positively radiate. They are the ones that will spend a couple hours talking to you at Dunkin Donuts after a meeting or calling you to see how your doing. Good Luck Tim!!! Hope this made some sense... Kelly


Member: Terry J.
Location: Kansas
Date: 10/25/2002
Time: 12:02:49 PM

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Hi, Terry and I'm an alcoholic Tim, I'm really glad you found this site and chose to leave a message. Please stay with it. Kelly gave some good thoughts. Make meetings (plural:) every day. Get the phone numbers of guys who may have some of the recovery you want. Most of all remember there is hope. I went in and out for 17 years and NOW I know I didn't HAVE to do it!! You don't either. The good news is, TODAY is the only day you don't have to drink. Hang in there, it is possible for things to get better! gratefultogod1@yahoo.com


Member: Jim B.
Location: W. Mich.
Date: 10/25/2002
Time: 3:16:55 PM

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Hi all, Jim here, alcoholic. Tim, you have made the biggest step by knowing you need help, and much sooner than many, including myself. I am now 38 and how I wish I had realized (and/or admitted) I was alcoholic when I was 18. What a difference in my life it would have made. So keep your spirits up, you just need to do the next right thing, like getting to meetings and finding a sponsor you are comfortable with. But be proud of yourself for stepping up early on in the game. 90 days ago I had 3 keys on my keyring - car key, office key and house key. Today I have one - the house key. Alcohol has cost me the other two. I plan to keep the house, that and my marriage. You have plenty of time to right things, just do it one day at a time. Good luck and keep comin' back!! (From a former Missouri resident)


Member: Bill P.
Location: Michigan
Date: 10/25/2002
Time: 3:46:24 PM

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Tim - This disease is life or death. The good news is that you are asking for help. That's a real good sign. This program (a gift from God) delivers hope and the opportunity to have a happy life, free from the bondage of booze, and self. I hope that you keep checking in here and that you will go to a meeting in your area. There will be people there just waiting to help you. Trust me. I'm a grateful alcoholic that drank for 30 years and decided that I needed help. No matter what I did, I could not stop drinking on my own. Jim B. - Thanks for your story, I relate to it well because the office key and car key were "yets" just about to be taken away. I'm glad that you had the guts to come into the program. I have 5 1/2 months sober and my life is way better than it's ever been before. Early sobriety is not easy, but as long as I stay open and teachable, the program helps me stay sober, learn to live sober, and be at peace with myself. Glad you're here. God Bless all of you.


Member: Sonny S.
Location: Indianapolis, IN
Date: 10/25/2002
Time: 3:49:59 PM

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Great meeying today in Indy. Thanks to H.P. Sober today.


Member: Kim D.
Location: Bridgewater
Date: 10/25/2002
Time: 4:54:51 PM

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Please excuse me getting of the discussion topic for a moment, but I would like to address ((Tim C.)) briefly for a moment. Tim, I too relapsed after leaving detox not once, but twice in a 3 month period. The first time, it took me a week to pick up and the second, it was within hours of my release. I eventually got sober a few days later, and have been since 8/1/99. For me, it came down to wanting to be sober versus wanting to drink. I thought that detoxes/treatment centers would "cure" me of my addiction - give me a kick start on my recovery - when infact the only reason I entered them was because my life was going down the shit tubes and I had to get people off my back. NOT because I wanted to get sober and learn how to live sober ODATT. So, of course I picked up again because I hadn't had enough - hadn't hit that bottom people speak about. I finally surrendered to this disease when I accepted my alcoholism and knew - beyond a shadow of a doubt - that my life became unmanageable when I drank. So, the choice was really simple - no matter what was going on in my life: stay sober ODATT through AA or choose to drink again and eventually end up in jail/institutions/death. LIVE OR DIE. It doesn't get any better out there, ((Tim)). It doesn't even stay the same... it only gets worse... way worse. I hope you can get back to a meeting - pick up a 24 hour chip - and ask for help staying sober ODATT. Everything else will fall into place after that... you just have to want to Live, Tim. Good Luck.


Member: Kellie R.
Location: A
Date: 10/25/2002
Time: 5:01:52 PM

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Kellie and definately an alcoholic, Tim I have been trying to get this thing for over three years now and I pray that you will be less hard-headed than I have been. The old timers told me in that I have to keep those memories green about where alcohol has taken me. We cannot forget all the bad things that have happened to us because of booze. They also told me to think the drink through, the consequences, the hangover etc.. Face to face meetings are your best bet right now, It is reassuring to hear and see other people who have similiar stories as your own. Be someone who has the smarts enough to hear these stories and do not feel the need to go out and do field research to find out if they are true, I know because I have taken the hard road only to find out that it is all TRUE. Love and light to everyone, definately glad to be sober today, Kellie


Member: cher
Location: Maine-iac
Date: 10/25/2002
Time: 5:37:02 PM

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Just a quick post...sort of off topic. AA has a committee set up called "Bridging The Gap" that is there to get newly released people to meetings within the first 24 hours . That is the crucial time period for most of us. Anyone getting out of a treatment facility or a correctional facility can give their name and the phone number of where they are going to be released to and a member of AA will contact them. It is way too scarey out there alone. In my early sobriety after detoxing in a hospital, I counted half days. It was a huge thing for me to make it til noon if I was awake. Most of the advice I got was don't talk with the old friends for a while...go to AA meetings and make some new sober friends and use the phone. Good luck and keep coming back.


Member: Marv L
Location: Ms
Date: 10/25/2002
Time: 9:51:54 PM

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Tim,glad you shared with us;hope you will make a new start,buddy! Not one of us has come close to adherence to the AA program,progress,not perfection is the key..Glad you reached out,no human power can releive our alcoholism,a Higher Power can and will if he is sought!!


Member: mike m
Location: bend, Or
Date: 10/26/2002
Time: 12:19:03 AM

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i am mike and im a alcoholic great topic by the grace of God i will have 6 yrs next month i white knukled it for about 9 mos i had to pick up the tools and get busy or pick up a drink.i hav'nt done it very gracefully.they told me when i was new that there are 7 things i Must do on a regular basis to stay sober.1 do'nt drink,2 go to meeting,3 read the big book,4 get a sponsor,5work the steps,6 pray,and 7 work with others. they also said.it did not matter who was right or wrong but who was left, thanx for letting me share


Member: mike m
Location: bend, Or
Date: 10/26/2002
Time: 12:21:09 AM

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i am mike and im a alcoholic great topic by the grace of God i will have 6 yrs next month i white knukled it for about 9 mos i had to pick up the tools and get busy or pick up a drink.i hav'nt done it very gracefully.they told me when i was new that there are 7 things i Must do on a regular basis to stay sober.1 do'nt drink,2 go to meeting,3 read the big book,4 get a sponsor,5work the steps,6 pray,and 7 work with others. they also said.it did not matter who was right or wrong but who was left, thanx for letting me share


Member: kellie R.
Location: AZ
Date: 10/26/2002
Time: 2:04:15 PM

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Kellie...alcoholic Tim are you there buddy, would love to hear a response from you. It is a wonderfully rainy day here in AZ and I am feeling sunny inside today because I woke up sober and plan on having a wonderfully clear and sober day inside. Hope everyone has a good day


Member: kellie R.
Location: AZ
Date: 10/26/2002
Time: 2:24:06 PM

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Kellie...alcoholic Tim are you there buddy, would love to hear a response from you. It is a wonderfully rainy day here in AZ and I am feeling sunny inside today because I woke up sober and plan on having a wonderfully clear and sober day inside. Hope everyone has a good day


Member: kellie R.
Location: AZ
Date: 10/26/2002
Time: 2:24:25 PM

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Kellie...alcoholic Tim are you there buddy, would love to hear a response from you. It is a wonderfully rainy day here in AZ and I am feeling sunny inside today because I woke up sober and plan on having a wonderfully clear and sober day inside. Hope everyone has a good day


Member: anonymous alcoholic (DOS 12/12/90)
Location: 2689 Ridgecrest Drive
Date: 10/26/2002
Time: 5:06:24 PM

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Thanks Craig ... staying present, good topic for this alcoholic today. I hope what I have to say kinda fits the topic...we'll see. I was thinking this week (my FIRST big mistake!). It went like this... when I was drinking, there were certain situations that I felt were best handled with a drink (thus AVOIDING staying in the present). The drink was 'my solution' to those particular problems/situations, e.g. feeling uncomfortable in a social situation, definitely called for a drink. Anyway, as my alcoholism progressed, it seemed like there were more and more situations that called for a drink, until towards the end drinking was THE SOLUTION to almost all my problems. I believe in sobriety I learn how to deal with various situations WITHOUT drinking. Sometimes I don't REALLY handle the situation, I just don't drink over it, but I am irritable, restless, and discontented still. That's as far as sobriety goes. ~~~ The second part of the program for me is recovery. In recovery (thru the steps) I learn how to deal effectively with most, if not all, situations in my life. Sounds a lot like 'living life on life's terms,' huh? Both sobriety and recovery are progressive to me. I may have 'little slips' now and then, but it is all about keeping trying for more/better progress. Hope some of this makes sense and kinda fits the topic. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ One more thing, I was thinking again today (oh no!) that alcoholism is a disease that SEEMS to be treatable with alcohol. Again, hopes that makes sense to others. Bye for now, I promise no more thinking for awhile :-) Thanks for reading 'my stuff'.


Member: Chris H.
Location: KS
Date: 10/26/2002
Time: 7:54:43 PM

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Chris, big time alcoholic here. Kim D., thanks so much for what you shared with Tim and the rest of us above. I'm like Tim...struggling to stay sober and I need to hear that I have two choices LIVE or DIE. If I continue to drink, I will surely die. Keep coming here and posting Tim. We're gonna' make it.


Member: maureen
Location: oregon
Date: 10/27/2002
Time: 1:02:18 AM

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Dear Chris, Thank-you for your comments. My response may not be appreciated by most, but here goes. We have no choice, we will live and die. That is a certain fact, it is infallible! How will we live? That is our only choice!


Member: Sherry
Location: Flagstaff, Az
Date: 10/27/2002
Time: 1:51:05 AM

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Hi, my name is Sherry and I am a alcoholic in recovery. This is my first time on-line. I have enjoyed all that has been written here. I oringinally picked this site for a school project but I was really helped by the topic. I will keep coming back. It is great to have a meeting at home. Thanks everyone